If I ever divorce

[Anonymous]

I plan on giving my husband primary custody or our children. He will have them 6 months and I will have them 6 months out of the year.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

You cared enough to reply to it.

Quoting Anonymous:

 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I have tried and still am. I am in counseling which doesn't seem to be working. I also take parenting classes.

Quoting firespurity:

At least you recognize it, but why not aspire to be a better parent as well?

Quoting Anonymous:

He is a better patent then I am.

Quoting Anonymous:

If he's a good dad, I don't see why not. I never understood why the kids HAVE to be with the mother if the dad is a good parent too.

[zebbyzebby06]

 No way could i got a week without seeing my kids, no way i could go 6 months

[firespurity]

Sometimes we have different parenting strengths. Try finding yours and embracing them. Don't worry about being super mom. Good luck. Hope there is never a need for divorce and you and your husband raise awesome kids.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have tried and still am. I am in counseling which doesn't seem to be working. I also take parenting classes.

Quoting firespurity:

At least you recognize it, but why not aspire to be a better parent as well?

Quoting Anonymous:

He is a better patent then I am.

Quoting Anonymous:

If he's a good dad, I don't see why not. I never understood why the kids HAVE to be with the mother if the dad is a good parent too.

[Anonymous]

I would do joint custody. My dh is a fantastic father. I would never take his kids away. We would probably do 1/2 week w/ him, 1/2 w/ me. I work 12s, 3 days a week. So, on the days I work... I'd let him have the kids. I would make sure we lived close enough that they wouldn't switch schools or anything.
We've already discussed this w/ each other.

[maria1613]

I'm no custody expert but isn't that joint custody?

[Anonymous]

"Primary custody" means he will get them more than you. He will also have ALL SAY about raising them....You would not get them 50/50  

HE will be in charge of their entire well-being. If your willing to give up being a parent...Then yeah, maybe they should go to him.  Hope he knows this.

Guess your getting a divorce in the near future eh???

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

He will have all say in raising them, so yes he will be the primary parent the only difference is he will have them 6 months and I will have them 6 months.