So, my kids have decided that they don't need to listen, or if they start out listening they get distracted quickly.
For example, today I told them at different times during the day "hey guys can you please empty the dishwasher" "Hey guys, here is your laundry please go put it away" and then " hey guys can you please pick up the dining room"
Well, they left all the silverware and a few plates, in the dishwasher, normally they do actually finish it before walking away, so I went to fill it and lo and behold, they didn't finish.
Dd's bed is still covered in her laundry, even though her brothers even went to help her, after they put their's away.
Then NONE of them actually cleaned the dining room, by that point I told them each at least five times to get back on task and clean ( I was folding laundry, and sorting things by size). They still were not done when DH got home and he sat on top of them saying pick that up, and that, and that, and that, and that, and it still took them 15 minutes.
Dd has also been working on cleaning her room for two weeks now.
I just don't know how to effectively get through to them, we've tried grounding, spankings for the 3 yr old ( he jumped off of the top bunk bed the other day, twice after I told him not to) no tv, no books, no toys, no computers. There isn't really anything we can take away.
Right now dh has dd writing " I will not dilly dally, and I will get my work done." 100 times
And now she is crying that it might just be the worst birthday ever (her birthday is Sunday)
She doesn't get that writing something 100 times should not take more then a few hrs, and going longer is not an option.
But I don't know what punishment to give, if she does go past the 3 day limit her dad set.
What do you do that works?
They are (going to be) 9, 7.5 and 3