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Control or Respect...*voting*

Posted by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:13 AM
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Question: So, if you were not permitted to be on FB and you are only permitted to be on yahoo messenger while your SO is NOT around, would you call that respect or a control issue?

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This girl ( a mother of three) whom I am acquainted with told me today that she could not be on FB while her SO is not there.  I responded, "Well that's odd, but okay."  She replies back, "It's a respect thing."  All I could think was, "No, it's a control thing."

 

 

by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:13 AM
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brittanyjenean
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:17 AM

BUMP

redbutterfly666
by Emerald Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:19 AM

control

young_lv_mom
by Silver Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:19 AM
Now could not as in did not want to or could not as in told not to? The first one is respect, the second one I would say control.
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Lizardannie1966
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:22 AM
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I suppose on the one hand, she's being respectful of his wishes.

However, that would only apply if she were 12-years old and the person giving her these rules was her father.

She's not and yes, it's very much a control issue.

brittanyjenean
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:26 AM


Quoting young_lv_mom:

Now could not as in did not want to or could not as in told not to? The first one is respect, the second one I would say control.


young_lv_mom
by Silver Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:29 AM
Wow, that's kind of sad.

Quoting brittanyjenean:



Quoting young_lv_mom:

Now could not as in did not want to or could not as in told not to? The first one is respect, the second one I would say control.


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brittanyjenean
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:29 AM

Exactly what I think.  I love my DH but I would never ever bow down to him as if he were my father. 

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

I suppose on the one hand, she's being respectful of his wishes.

However, that would only apply if she were 12-years old and the person giving her these rules was her father.

She's not and yes, it's very much a control issue.


MimiInAtl
by Bronze Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:30 AM
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Sounds to me like the guy has control, trust, &. Jealously issues. Big warning flags here! 

brittanyjenean
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:31 AM

I know.  I will never understand why women tolerate something like that.  If there is no trust in a relationship, there cannot be a relationship.

Quoting young_lv_mom:

Wow, that's kind of sad.

Quoting brittanyjenean:



Quoting young_lv_mom:

Now could not as in did not want to or could not as in told not to? The first one is respect, the second one I would say control.

 


Lizardannie1966
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:31 AM

I've never had to deal with this from my husband and vice versa.

I guess I just don't get the relationships/marriages where one part of the couple is under the control of the other.

However, it sounds like the friend doesn't seem to mind.

Quoting brittanyjenean:

Exactly what I think.  I love my DH but I would never ever bow down to him as if he were my father. 

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

I suppose on the one hand, she's being respectful of his wishes.

However, that would only apply if she were 12-years old and the person giving her these rules was her father.

She's not and yes, it's very much a control issue.



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