*FINAL UPDATE IN BLUE* Your kids peanut allergy is a pain in my a** (EDIT)
Well, it's all over. I warned her ahead of time. I sent her those links, and she's convinced he's int he 4%, so I didn't push it. But I told her if he can't touch anything peanut-related than my house will not be safe for them. I told her my aunt always makes a pecan pie for Christmas because it's sort of a tradition and I couldn't ask her not to since she's coming in from out of town. (Pulled that entire story out of my ass). So anyway, last minute she decided not to come. But I made her a couple plates of food (basic stuff that I knew was okay) and brought it over. I don't know if she ate it or not, but I did my part.
Thanks for all the advice ladies!
Confession: I can't stand this woman... I have to redo my entire menu because this woman is coming for christmas and bringing her child who has a peanut allergy. I'm not bashing the kid, but the mom is so damn picky that it makes it sooo difficult to cater to her needs on an already stressful day. Ugh.
Some Basic Facts:
I didn't "invite" her. Somehow lines of communication got incorrectly crossed. She is not "my" friend. We are casual acquaintances because our sons are very good friends. I had no idea how extreme she was with her childs' allergies.
Peanut-related ingredients are not just foods containing whole peanuts. Read your labels on EVERYTHING and you will find many unsafe things in your own home. Flour, oil, stuffing, macaroni, bread, bread crumbs, TONS of things. Think about all the ingredients you use for the holidays.
And she isn't asking that I simply skip actual peanut-dishes (which would be reasonable). She is asking that I read all labels and throw away all "unsafe" ingredients, then scrub and sanitize my ENTIRE house and replace cookie sheets because those are a "definite" threat because I made PB cookies a few months ago on them.
She is NOT offering to purchase anything, help clean, or bring her child a separate dish. I have a revolving door on the holidays. Anyone is welcome, I just ask that they bring something. I cannot guarantee that EVERYONE will purchase new oil, flour, whatever they use and either sterilize or buy new containers and utensils.
I wonder if I should bring this website to her attention. This is coming from a pretty reliable source, but I will continue to look. So either she's blowing this WAY out of proportion, or she doesn't know the facts. But after dealing with this for sooo long, I'm assuming she knows but doesn't want to admit it...