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Why is it not okay to be thrilled?

Anonymous
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So my sister found out she's pregnant last tuesday. I was instantly thrilled.

My parents are not. She's only been with her boyfriend a short time and they are very anti- sex-before-marriage.

My sister gets a lot of advice and therapy from me. I didn't know she was having unprotected sex until about two weeks ago, and by then she was already pregnant. However, I DID spend that week trying to find her a doctor that would give her an IUD for a good price, without insurance. And told her to go down to PP to get some BCP's until we could get her an appointment. But again, it was already too late.

Anyway, so they are saying that it's my fault. She's the baby, so they can't blame her. Additionally, they're telling me that by being happy for her and supporting her I'm not "doing her any favors". They're more angry with ME than with HER!!!

I don't get it. Being angry or making her feel like crap isn't going to change the fact that she's expecting. So why can't I be thrilled and supportive?

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:36 PM
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Pumpkinbean
by Ruby Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:37 PM
How old is she?
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SterlingHeart
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:38 PM

you go on ahead and be happy 

MamaOf3091011
by Scmama87 on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:38 PM


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How old is she?
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alyssaravensmom
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:38 PM
Wow i'd be mad if I was getting.blamed.
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Mamasgirl524
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:39 PM
I just found out my baby sister is pregnant too :-(
I think my mom was more upset to find out I was pregnant and 23 and independent.. Ignore them, be your sisters support.
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areles
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:39 PM



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How old is she?

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:44 PM

21

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How old is she?


IntactivistMama
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:46 PM
Well, fuck that. She is a grown-up and you did not force her to open her legs. How does her BF feel about the pregnancy?


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How old is she?



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momtoalexis423
by Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:46 PM

Don't let them bother you. She needs your support

Pumpkinbean
by Ruby Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:47 PM
Tell your parents to GTF over it; she's an adult.


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