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BF and I were married and ex would sign over his rights. Then BF would qualify for FMLA and could get time off work to spend here with me and DD. 

He JUST got a new job, so it's a bit early to be requesting time off. DD was just declared to be in the early stages of the dying process. BF called me crying, saying if he hadn't gotten the job he would be up here with me right now. 

I feel so bad for him right now. He loves DD as if she was his own, and not being able to be here with her and I has been so hard on him. I hope his boss is understanding and gives him some time off. 

Ugh...

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 7:36 PM
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TattoodMommy19
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 8:56 PM
I still feel you were a little callous and disrespectful.
You're entitled to your opinion, certainly. I simply feel none of us are in a place to judge her because we are not in her position. Kwim?


Quoting Litlmama87:

I don't ask the questions to be a bitch.



I just think it's a hard time for both her and her daughter's father, I remember a post from the very beginning, whereas he had a very hard time accepting and expressing his emotions & feelings. Add to that he's young, this is a lot to take on.



I know it's a difficult time, but I'm not going to sugarcoat things either, I just really think its sad that her daughter's dying & she wants her child's father to sign his rights over to her 40 year old boyfriend of 2 months.



I'm just wondering if her daughters father didn't abuse her or the baby, put his hands on them, then stick it out, & let the resentment towards him go. It's not good for any of them.




Quoting TattoodMommy19:

Im pretty damn shocked at the Pp questioning you like that at such a hard time in your life.


Your feelings are yours alone and you have your reasons, and you would think in this case women could respect that and leave it be.





I'll be honest, I avoid your posts because I cry for you and that little girl every time I read one. Our daughters are only 2 months apart. I can not even begin to imagine the depth of your pain and your strength.





I am so sorry your bf cannot be there for you both.


(((Hugs)))

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sadiebug1228
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:00 PM
I'm so sorry ur going thru this. I couldn't imagine going thru what ur going thru. If u don't mind can I ask how old is she? And I know u already commented and told everyone what's going on with her but what does her condition mean?
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Ashley_Carlson
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:01 PM

She's almost a year old. Her condition is degenerative and fatal. It causes her Pons, Cerebellum, and in her case, the Medulla and Frontal Lobe to be underdeveloped. 

Quoting sadiebug1228:

I'm so sorry ur going thru this. I couldn't imagine going thru what ur going thru. If u don't mind can I ask how old is she? And I know u already commented and told everyone what's going on with her but what does her condition mean?


Litlmama87
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:01 PM
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I can understand that.

Quoting TattoodMommy19:

I still feel you were a little callous and disrespectful.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly. I simply feel none of us are in a place to judge her because we are not in her position. Kwim?




Quoting Litlmama87:

I don't ask the questions to be a bitch.





I just think it's a hard time for both her and her daughter's father, I remember a post from the very beginning, whereas he had a very hard time accepting and expressing his emotions & feelings. Add to that he's young, this is a lot to take on.





I know it's a difficult time, but I'm not going to sugarcoat things either, I just really think its sad that her daughter's dying & she wants her child's father to sign his rights over to her 40 year old boyfriend of 2 months.





I'm just wondering if her daughters father didn't abuse her or the baby, put his hands on them, then stick it out, & let the resentment towards him go. It's not good for any of them.






Quoting TattoodMommy19:

Im pretty damn shocked at the Pp questioning you like that at such a hard time in your life.



Your feelings are yours alone and you have your reasons, and you would think in this case women could respect that and leave it be.







I'll be honest, I avoid your posts because I cry for you and that little girl every time I read one. Our daughters are only 2 months apart. I can not even begin to imagine the depth of your pain and your strength.







I am so sorry your bf cannot be there for you both.



(((Hugs)))

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sadiebug1228
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:05 PM
I'm so sorry :( my daughters almost 1. She has a lot of developmental delays but recently had an MRI of her brain and her dr said her brain is completely fine. I feel lucky to have her so healthy and nothing serious is wrong. I'm so sorry and u and her will be in my prayers!

Quoting Ashley_Carlson:

She's almost a year old. Her condition is degenerative and fatal. It causes her Pons, Cerebellum, and in her case, the Medulla and Frontal Lobe to be underdeveloped. 

Quoting sadiebug1228:

I'm so sorry ur going thru this. I couldn't imagine going thru what ur going thru. If u don't mind can I ask how old is she? And I know u already commented and told everyone what's going on with her but what does her condition mean?


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cassie241986
by Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:09 PM
I hope your boyfriend gets the time off to spend with you and your Daughter. I often think of you and Sophia. Where in the same due date group.


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