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If you adopted a baby, would you tell them as they grew older?

Anonymous
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If you adopted a child before they were old enough to realize what was going on, would you tell them they were adopted? If yes, at what age would you tell them? 


EDIT:

My husband found out he was adopted when he was 18, his father told him during an argument.. I know he doesn't look at his family the same way anymore and I just feel so bad for him. I was just curious as to how many other parents would do the same thing his parents did.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:13 PM
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NowImAMom...
by Silver Member on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:14 PM
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Most likely. And yes, I would tell them when I felt they were ready.

brettsmomma
by ~Tammie~ on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:15 PM
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yes. I would tell them from a very young age. 


ashleyrenee24
by 2ne1 on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:17 PM

Of course I would. I would tell them at a young age.

mcginnisc
by *Claire-Bear* on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:17 PM
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Yes. It is irresponsible NOT to tell an adoptee that they are indeed adopted. Period. That child deserves to know their story as they age. They should be told from day one- regardless of how old they are. It should never be a surprise to them. If you tell them from the beginning, it will become second nature to hear the word adoption and they will be more comfortable speaking the their parents about their adoption. 

I'm an adoptive parent. Our dd was adopted from China at 17 months old. She has known from day one, but even if she were not a different race we would have told her from the very first moment we met her. She is now 7 and is very comfortable in her adoption story and freely discusses adoption issues with us. 

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Amy_M
by Silver Member on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:18 PM
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I would tell them right away, it would be a part of their lives from day 1.

Mel0dy
by Platinum Member on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:18 PM

Yes I would. I would tell them with I think they are ready. I can't really say what age cuz all kids are diffrent. But I would forsure tell them 

MamaBear2cubs
by Nikki on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:19 PM

Yes I would not sure what age.

T-Rentsmommy06
by Gold Member on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:19 PM

 My siblings always knew they were adopted. I feel like I would do the same.

Kitschy
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:19 PM

I would tell them from the start. It would never be a secret.

mandapanda82
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 1:20 PM
I hope... When I was 16 I gave up my son for open adoption. I hope they tell him.
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