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He used you for what???

Anonymous
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You meet your s/o and he is from South America (or any other place). You fall in love and marry him. He is an absolutely amazing husband, takes care of you, and your kids (who are NOT his). Your kids adore him. His family adores you and you get along great with his family. But, You find out somehow that if it wasn't for the fact that he needed a green card (you knew he needed it from the beginning because he was here on a student visa) he probably wouldn't have married you. How would you feel? 

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:37 PM
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klespeedy0205
by Silver Member on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:37 PM
Kinda bummed I think.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:38 PM

Would you let it slide because he was such a great guy?

Quoting klespeedy0205:

Kinda bummed I think.


atyou
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:38 PM
Shitty, dude.
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Ninjascreenname
by Gold Member on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:39 PM
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I wouldn't marry someone who needed a green card.
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cLanief
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:39 PM
If your life is going perfect and the relationship is thriving I dont see the problem..

It's just like the too many people who only get married cuz they're pregnant or military.. etc.. and so on.
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workingmama86
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:40 PM

betrayed. hurt. mad.

klespeedy0205
by Silver Member on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:40 PM
Probably. You will be able to tell if he was genuine after all the paperwork is done. I hope it works out for you.

Quoting Anonymous:

Would you let it slide because he was such a great guy?

Quoting klespeedy0205:

Kinda bummed I think.


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Litlmama87
by Platinum Member on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:40 PM
I would have never married him in the first place.
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jbirdsladie27
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:40 PM
I'd feel hurt. And then I'd smack the green card out of him!! Douche bag!!
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clp0930
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 1:40 PM
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My husband is from India. We're very close to his family and we just had a baby. I never worry about that because:

-who dates someone for 4 years and gets cold feet if they're marrying for a green card?

-who lives overseas with you in their homeland if marrying fr a green card

-who plans for children if they only want a green card


you can tell if someone truly loves you or just wants a green card. If the sudamericano is using you leave him, also he loses the card if yo're married less than 3 years.

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