Long story short, the school confiscated my sons phone for texting in class. He was acting shady about it and they called me to tell me. I told them I would be right there to get it. When I got there I looked and discovered his girlfriend from another school sent him a naked picture.
DS is 14, just turned this month. His gf is 13, turning 14 on the 25th of Jan. The principle said that they have no right to tell her parents, nor any right to get him in trouble as it is two 13 year olds and there is no real age difference (in our state it isn't considered child porn like other states). They said they are turning a blind eye to it and not getting involved and its left up to us.
My husband and I are in disagreement. He thinks we need to tell her parents. I don't want to.
Hear me out. We moved here a few years ago and ds has had issues making lasting connections and friendships. If I ruin this it might devastate him and further alienate him, if I tell her parents they will never allow her to speak to him again and isolate him from this new group of kids which are very well behaved compared to the group at his school (we had a party and the group from the school was cursing and acting crazy, the new group from the other school was well dressed and very polite). I just want the relationship to run its course. Plus I hardly know her parents, how I even start this conversation? As a mother I would want to know what my daughter was doing, but on the other hand, I check my son's phone (she had just sent this to him) so I would have already known what he was doing and busted him anyway which they need to be doing, not me. They aren't having sex, they aren't allowed to go anywhere together. He is literally under my thumb at all times, they don't attend the same school, I go with him to all of his sporting events etc. I think its natural curiosity.
What are your thoughts? Who do you agree with? Me or my husband?