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Do You Think It Is Okay To Wear Fur?

Real Fur Coats Should Be Okay to Wear (As Long As They're Vintage)

Posted by Michele Zipp

vintage furI wear fur. Well I have fur coats and I used to wear them a lot more than I do now. I have four of them. All vintage. The one I'm wearing in this photo I purchased for $40. It's the warmest coat I own, but I don't wear it that much because it's feels showy, maybe too glamorous. And if I wore it to pick up my kids from preschool it would feel as if I was wearing a ball gown with a tiara.  Sure the tiara would be a hit with the kids, but would the dead rabbit annoy some of the other parents? Do I need to sew a button on it that says "It's okay. It's vintage."

Because I do feel that makes it okay. The animal has long been dead -- we're talking gone for 30 or 40 years -- and the coats are just floating around in vintage stores and Etsy shops waiting to keep someone really warm in the winter. Wearing a vintage fur coat is just like recycling. It's eco-friendly in it's own way.

So why do I find it so hard to wear for the everyday?

Maybe I worry that since I'm a mom now, the act of picking up my kids -- up and down and up and down -- would just make my fur coat shed causing a trail of dead bunny rabbit hairs all over the place? Would it be weird to be in a fur coat and pushing my kid on a swing at the park? Just as odd as say, wearing heels at the playground. I've done that. I can do this, too.

What is stopping me from wearing my fur? Maybe it's because I don't live in NYC anymore and I'm upstate in a crunchy town? Then I saw Pam. Her daughter is in class with my twins. Pam always looks gorgeous even when just coming from a run. I can't even run so the fact that she can and still look that good is incredible in my book. There she was in a faux fur coat picking her child up from school. Instantly glamorous without overdoing it. Perfect.

faux fur coat

The look of real fur versus fake fur is essentially the same. No stigma attached to the fake one though, and no chance of shedding. But the style, the way it's plush and cozy and warm and fancy, is there.

Pam's faux fur has given me the courage to wear my real fur. My vintage real fur. Or shall I just start calling it my eco-fur coat.

Do you wear vintage fur?

Do you think it's okay to wear fur?

 

by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 10:25 AM
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Saille717
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 10:48 PM

My best friend's mother gave me her mink jacket when she moved to Florida and none of her daughters wanted the coat.  It's easily 25+ years old, but I don't know that I'd say it's vintage.  Don't really care, though, I wear it when I have a good reason to.  and it really is super warm!  I also have a couple leather coats, as does DH, and leather shoes, belts, purses, etc.  We eat meat, eggs, dairy, and any and all other animal products.  IMO unles you're totally vegan and don't use any animal products of any kind ever, then you've got no business being snide with somebody for wearing fur.  

And my response to my vegan family and friends -- It's warm, soft, and I love it.  

Cynthje
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 11:01 PM

I think it depends on what kind of fur and if its a by product or if the animal was bread specifically for its fur. i have no problem with people in cold climates wearing fur to keep them warm. What i do have a problem with is those animals that are kept in tiny cages only for their furr, it just irks me. Leather in most cases is a byproduct, the animals are usually killed for food and the skins are also used so thats different (ofcourse snake skin boots are a whole different subject).

Pattiann236
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 11:07 PM

YOU DON'T FEEL RIGHT ABOUT WEARING IT BECAUSE IT IS WRONG.  IN DAYS GONE BY, ANIMAL SKIN AND FUR WERE WORN FOR SURVIVAL   NOT AS A FASHION STATEMENT .   HAVE THE MADE INTO TEDDY BEARS IF YOU LIKE THE FEEL OF THEM.

SadeAyosmom
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:05 AM

no.

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by Platinum Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:41 AM

 if your fur coat is from 1962 or older, then it should be OK. other than that, anything less than 50 years old, the only reason to wear fur is if you are an animl like cat, dog, guinea pig, ferret. IMO

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by Meow on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:41 AM

do you think it would be ok to put human skin on animals?

Uzma_mom_of_2
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:58 AM

I get creeped out by authentic furs. I eat meat, and like leather, but something about real fur gives me the willies.

JanuaryBaby06
by Gold Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:54 AM

no

Mrs.DebB
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:58 AM
I can not imagine a reasonable circumstance in which I would wear fur.
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msmoody
by Bronze Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 2:02 AM
Well, that makes no sense at all, love.
A fur coat that actually makes her warm is wrong, but a stuffed animal made from a dead animal is acceptable.
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Quoting Pattiann236:

YOU DON'T FEEL RIGHT ABOUT WEARING IT BECAUSE IT IS WRONG.  IN DAYS GONE BY, ANIMAL SKIN AND FUR WERE WORN FOR SURVIVAL   NOT AS A FASHION STATEMENT .   HAVE THE MADE INTO TEDDY BEARS IF YOU LIKE THE FEEL OF THEM.

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