ETA I told my ex no play douh at my house, then he text me this...am I wrong?
I absolutely hate that stuff. Last time he sent her some for her birthday she let it sit out and I found it dried up in the carpet. Plus she tried to feed it to her brother.
So when we get off the phone my ex sends me a message asking why I don want her to play with it. I tell him why I don't want it here. Then he says "Because you don't feel like parenting, (DD's) mental growth suffers. Unbelievable."
DDs fine motor skills are behind so the teacher listed some things to help her improve. Play douh was on the list, but so were a bunch of other things. I don't think that by not letting her bring play douh home I'm hindering her. Do you think I'm wrong?
ETA: DD has plenty of other tools at her disposal to help with her fine motor skills. She sorts buttons, strings beads, uses markers, crayons, pens and pencils to color and practice her writing(which is what she's behind on). She paints, practices cutting and gluing, and uses perler beads(another thing I dispise because the beads are so small and go everywhere)
The issue isn't that I don't sit down with her and supervise her play doh use. I just absolutely hate play doh. The smell, the feel, AND the fact that it is a mess. She has play doh that her dad sent her a month ago for her birthday. Most of what he sent her was crumbled up and left to dry out. I found some hidden in the bedroom stuck to the carpet. And yes, the play doh was kept out of reach. Or so I thought. It was on the refrigerator. And apparently she used a chair to get it down. Oh, and yes, she is supervised. But she's 6, I don feel the need to sit beside her and constantly hold her hand.
There are plenty of other things on the list that her dad coul have got her to help wit her fine motor skills. He chose play doh after I specifically requested him not to get her anymore for Christmas. She has opportunities to use it at school. And just a couple weeks ago she she made salt dough ornaments for people's Christmas presents. So I fail to see how me telling her to keep it at her dads means I'm failing to be a parent. If he has no issues with it then he can keep it there and she can use it when she visits him.