He asked me to marry him AND wants to have a girlfriend! *He is gone talk time* *Update with "talk"**Small update*
He finally finished packing his shit and has left. Not before he tried crying and telling me how much he loves me. I told him to save it and to get the fuck out. After he left I called my folks and asked them to keep the kids tonight for me. I just told them we uad a fight and he's moving out.
Time to "chat" with her.
*update with her talk*
He was out the door, I looked at her, and said "you better start talking now". She went on about how she didn't know how he felt about her and blah, blah, blah. I knew she was lieing so I called her on it. It took me 10 minutes of telling her she's full of crap until she broke down and started crying. She said he told her recently that he thinks he was falling for her. She said he even tried to kiss her, but she pushed him away. She said he's been blowing her phone up with texts telling her he loves her and all that. She showed me the texts between them. She did keep asking him what about me. He said "well I'm in love with both of you". In texts she told him that she loves me too much to do that to me and to just stop. There were no texts for a few days then he text her that he was going to ask me to marry him. All she said was good. She still claims she had no idea he was going to ask if she could be his girlfriend too. I didn't buy it and told her so. I got up, checked the phone records and saw long phone conversations between them on the days there were no texts and a few when there were texts. I came back to her and said "you've got 30 seconds to tell me the fucking truth or I'll kick your ass!" She finally spilled it all. They never slept together, but she did admit to him that she had feelings for him too, but still swears she didn't knkw he was going to ask that. I told her I didn't care. She should have been a woman and came to me immediately. She destroyed my trust and ruined our friendship. I told her to get the fuck out and consider our friendship over.
He has been texting me since he left. I'm ignoring them. Fuck them both!
He showed up here today, crying, and begging me to marry him. He swears it's me he wants and blah, blah, blah. For a split second I considered it, but then thought better of it. There is nothing stopping him from having a wandering heart again. I deserve better than that. I told him I meant what I said last night when I said it was done. He called me heartless, and told me I would regret it because he was the best I will ever find. I couldn't help, but laugh and tell him my dead dh was the best guy, and the idiot standing in front of me wasn't 1/10 of the man my dh had been. He looked like he had been smacked because he was always jealous of the relationship I had with my dead husband, even though they never met. It was all so ridiculous. I then told him I would have never married him any way and slammed the door in his face.
As for her, she sent me a text today and told me she would give me time to cool off and when I did I knew how to reach her. Uh. No!