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Christians, would you let your kid have a Pagan friend? UPDATE

Posted by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 7:55 PM
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My family and I are openly Pagan. 

My kids are allowed to learn about and even follow different religious or spiritual paths if they so choose.

My 13 yr old is quite Pagan. He gave a talk on it in Boy Scouts a few years ago, and  he wears a Pentacle necklace all the time. 

Most of his friends are either Pagan or their parents are good friends of mine who know we are Pagan.

We recently moved to a new neighborhood and he met a boy who is also 13. The boys have become best friends and are frequently at each other's houses.

Not long ago, his friend made the comment "Wow your family really likes that star in a circle..You all must be from Texas?" My son looked confused and then said "We lived in Corpus Christi for awhile" (we did)

Then the boys went off to ride bikes....

Later, my son asked me if he should tell his friend that we are Pagan and what the star in a circle really is. I asked him why he was concerned and he said that his friend's family is very Christian and has pictures of Jesus around the house and go to church all the time and he didn't want them to refuse to allow them to play together. 

I told him I would think about it and we will talk later.....

So Christains, what would your reation be if you found out one of your kid's friend was Pagan and from a Pagan family? Would you still let your child play with the kid? Go to their house? Spend the night? 


UPDATE:

I had to take my son to the ER last night (he's fine now) and when we got there his friend was there with his mother. They had brought a neighbor in to be seen.

We sat next to them and the mom and I started talking. Finally, I said to her that there was something I had been meaning to talk to her about. I explained that my son was worried that if she found out our spiitual beliefs that she wouldn't let the boys play together. 

She asked what we believed, and I told her we were Pagan. She had heard of Paganism but really didn't know much about it. I gave her a brief rundown and offered to explain it more in depth at my house some day, and even offered to let her borrow a couple of my books if she wanted.

She said that she didn't have a problem with it, and she was glad the boys were friends. She said my son was a good influence on hers and that my son had nothing to worry about. 

She even gave my son a hug and told him he was a great kid and she didn't care what he believed in. 

I want to thank everyone who answered honestly and respectfully even when your views were different from mine. 


Life in a Pagan Family (my blog)
http://lifeinapaganfamily.blog.com/
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 28, 2012 at 7:57 PM
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What possible reason could there be to allow belief systems to dictate choices regarding friendship?  Why not simply choose mutual respect? 

wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Dec. 28, 2012 at 7:59 PM

In a perfect world, this is how it would be. Sadly I live in a very small, rural town where it is all about Momma, Apple Pie, and Jesus (not necessarily in that order)

My  MIL went ape shit crazy when she found out, and we switched dentists because the one we were using wanted to preform an exercism on my 11 yr old son who is schizophrenic (and he has no clue about our religion)

Quoting Anonymous:

What possible reason could there be to allow belief systems to dictate choices regarding friendship?  Why not simply choose mutual respect? 


Life in a Pagan Family (my blog)
http://lifeinapaganfamily.blog.com/
jillbailey26
by Jill on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:00 PM
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I wouldn't have a reaction, but that's not something that bothers me.  I'm Christian, but I understand a little about Paganism.  My kids can be friends with whoever they choose as long as they're good, decent people.


"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification"  Romans 14:19

moosesmom
by Ruby Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:00 PM
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I would have no reaction. My kids can play with whoever they want to play with. Spend the night...no. But that's only because I'm weird like that with everyone. Lol. But if the family has great morals, teaches their children blah blah blah I don't have a problem with it :-)
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by Anonymous on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:00 PM
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I know when I converted to Wicca in my teens I lost almost all of my Christian friends. I'd still advise him to tell the kid. Would he really want to be friends with someone who wouldn't be friends with him if he knew the truth?
my4yahoos
by Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:00 PM

I would have no issue with it as long as both sides were respectful.

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by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:01 PM
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I wouldn't care.
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wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:01 PM
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I think he is more worried about the parents than the kid, but I do see your point.

Quoting Anonymous:

I know when I converted to Wicca in my teens I lost almost all of my Christian friends. I'd still advise him to tell the kid. Would he really want to be friends with someone who wouldn't be friends with him if he knew the truth?


Life in a Pagan Family (my blog)
http://lifeinapaganfamily.blog.com/
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:01 PM

I totally agree

Quoting Anonymous:

What possible reason could there be to allow belief systems to dictate choices regarding friendship?  Why not simply choose mutual respect? 


JustSabrina2012
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 8:01 PM
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I am a Christian and it wouldn't bother me. He is old enough to choose his own religon

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