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Christians, would you let your kid have a Pagan friend? UPDATE

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My family and I are openly Pagan. 

My kids are allowed to learn about and even follow different religious or spiritual paths if they so choose.

My 13 yr old is quite Pagan. He gave a talk on it in Boy Scouts a few years ago, and  he wears a Pentacle necklace all the time. 

Most of his friends are either Pagan or their parents are good friends of mine who know we are Pagan.

We recently moved to a new neighborhood and he met a boy who is also 13. The boys have become best friends and are frequently at each other's houses.

Not long ago, his friend made the comment "Wow your family really likes that star in a circle..You all must be from Texas?" My son looked confused and then said "We lived in Corpus Christi for awhile" (we did)

Then the boys went off to ride bikes....

Later, my son asked me if he should tell his friend that we are Pagan and what the star in a circle really is. I asked him why he was concerned and he said that his friend's family is very Christian and has pictures of Jesus around the house and go to church all the time and he didn't want them to refuse to allow them to play together. 

I told him I would think about it and we will talk later.....

So Christains, what would your reation be if you found out one of your kid's friend was Pagan and from a Pagan family? Would you still let your child play with the kid? Go to their house? Spend the night? 


UPDATE:

I had to take my son to the ER last night (he's fine now) and when we got there his friend was there with his mother. They had brought a neighbor in to be seen.

We sat next to them and the mom and I started talking. Finally, I said to her that there was something I had been meaning to talk to her about. I explained that my son was worried that if she found out our spiitual beliefs that she wouldn't let the boys play together. 

She asked what we believed, and I told her we were Pagan. She had heard of Paganism but really didn't know much about it. I gave her a brief rundown and offered to explain it more in depth at my house some day, and even offered to let her borrow a couple of my books if she wanted.

She said that she didn't have a problem with it, and she was glad the boys were friends. She said my son was a good influence on hers and that my son had nothing to worry about. 

She even gave my son a hug and told him he was a great kid and she didn't care what he believed in. 

I want to thank everyone who answered honestly and respectfully even when your views were different from mine. 


Life in a Pagan Family (my blog)
http://lifeinapaganfamily.blog.com/
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 7:55 PM
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Ireallydontcare
by Gold Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:25 PM

Yes, my best friend is Pagan. So what?

CutieCrab
by Jen on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:28 PM
Ofcourse!!! People are entitled to their beliefs! :)
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etsmom
by Ruby Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:29 PM

Sure, I would let my kids hang my kids who are pagan. So what if you have a different belief and we might worship differently. I believe that with children, if I allow my kids play, be friends with, spend the night, I am allowing my child to learn tollerance, but more importantly, that people are different and thats ok. We talk about the rainbow and how the world would be dull and flat if we were all the same.

jjchick75
by Gold Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:29 PM

My oldest daughter has friends from all religions and it's always been that way. I wouldn't think twice about one of my kids being friends with a Pagan. But then I allow my children to branch out and find their own beliefs, rather than force my beliefs on them.

wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:30 PM

Pagans don't proseletize. 

Quoting supercarp:

I wouldn't have a problem with it unless they tried to proseletize. I wouldn't care for Christians who did that either.


Life in a Pagan Family (my blog)
http://lifeinapaganfamily.blog.com/
Ma2JennaB
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:30 PM

I consider myself a Christian and the way I show it is by not judging others and showing respect for their beliefs.  I have friends who are VERY much more religious than I am, that are Jewish, that are Atheist and that are Pagans and I have no problem with any of them.  I choose friends and love people for WHO they show me they are.  I expect the same from my daughter and I would never question what religion a friend's family is if they are a good family raising a good child.  It shows how your son is being raised by just the fact that he didn't throw it in the other child's face and asked your advice first.  Nothing pisses me off more than a "Christian" who judges others! 

meglennox
by Silver Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:31 PM
I wouldnt care. My ex bff is wiccan.
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wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:31 PM

If my son's friend tried to witness to him, my son would politely ask him to stop and tell him he has his own beliefs. 

Quoting Squid12:

Since Christ loved all and the goal of Christianity is to follow the Bible and Christ's teachings, yes. Plus, my kid could witness to the little pagan boy.

Although, I despise religion and chose to have faith. If I were you I'd talk to the parents.


Life in a Pagan Family (my blog)
http://lifeinapaganfamily.blog.com/
Mrs_Nelson
by Silver Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:34 PM

I wouldn't have a problem with it but I would probably keep it to myself until I found out what kind of christians they are.  Sadly there are people who will be afraid and keep them apart then there are the "converters" who would try to get him to be christian and scare him with tales of hell and such.

cryssi_renee
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 12:34 PM
Absolutely! I'm not sheltering my kids from other religions. My SIL is Pagan so my kids will grow up knowing about it I'm sure.
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