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S/O what are your reactions if you son called to tell you that,... *4th edit*

Anonymous
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Question: I like the girl (she seems enchanting) SO i would encourage the relationship....

Options:

yes

no- to much baggage

No- the debt

no- she has a child

no- its going to take her to long to get a degree and on her feet

No- other


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He is dating a woman who is 25 years old with a son and he wants to marry her. *and he wants your opinion*

Is going to school full time (wont get a degree for a couple of years)

and has recently been divorced. (father not in the picture)

This woman has a couple of thousand it debt... but she is working it off. 

She wants a traditional marriage (aka SAHM) etc etc etc 

GO!

Honest thoughts!! This is your baby boy we are talking about! 

IF you chose OTHER please let me know why. Thank you very much!

 

ETA: its not CC debt. Its some money she borrowed from her family when she fled her husband, then some more to get a divorce, and the last bit is some money she owes to the Army for getting out a lil early (she took the pregnancy clause) Would the type of debt change your feelings? Or is it just the debt in general?

4th Edit--  I am the "gf" in this hypothetical. I am recently divorced after having been separated for two years. I am thinking about dating (I did NOT date at all when still married, even though we were not together i was still a married woman) I am trying to get a feel for what the dating world may hold for me :D Thank you all fo your honest input!



Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:03 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:05 AM
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So long as he is an adult, I would support him. I trust my child to make the best decisions for himself, and unless he asks for my opinions od advice, I will keep those things to myself. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:08 AM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:08 AM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:09 AM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:09 AM

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Hannahluvsdogs
by Ruby Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:09 AM

I think it's hard to find a full-time college student without debt these days. The cost of tuition is unbelievable.

activitymode
by Platinum Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:10 AM
How old is he? Is he responsible to care for a child? Is he financially stable? Is she a good person?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:11 AM

she is a good person

Your son is responsible but prolly not finacially stable. Just starting out, a lil in savings,.. has a decent job prolly. I would say 18-30

Quoting activitymode:

How old is he? Is he responsible to care for a child? Is he financially stable? Is she a good person?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:12 AM

it is not from school its from the divorce :C

Quoting Hannahluvsdogs:

I think it's hard to find a full-time college student without debt these days. The cost of tuition is unbelievable.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 29, 2012 at 1:12 AM
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If they're both serious, and she's not just out to use your son, then why not? If she's a good girl and is serious about getting her life together, and geniunely loves your son, then there shouldn't be a problem.

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