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Do you teach your kids to hit back? *edit*

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So yesterday, I took my 2.5 and my 6 year old dd's out to play in one of those mall play area things. While there, my 2.5 year old was playing some sort of animal game with another little boy (who looked to be about 3) which consisted of them crawling around and growling at each other. I guess she growled at him a little too loudly becuause he decided to hit my dd. As I was about to get up, my dd stopped, sat back on her feet, had this sort of look on her face, punched that boy like he stole something, and then got back on all fours and growled again. lol. The little boy said "OUCH! THAT HURT!" got up and walked to the other side of the play area mad. His mom was there, but never said anything due to the fact that she watched it all take place. I guess I don't have to worry about my dd getting bullied, huh? lol. My kids are allowed to defend themselves and their siblings but are not allowed to start fights.  Do you ladies teach your kids to hit back?

 

*Edit*

I see some of you saying that your kids walk away, get an adult or they have never been in a situation to have to hit back, that's amazing. As a child, no amount of walking away, getting an adult or any of that helped the senseless teasing and bullying that I endured. There is only so much a teacher or parent can do to stop that sort of thing. It only stopped when I reached 10th grade and knocked anyone on their ass who harrassed me.  While walking away or getting an adult is the best option, it's not always an option.

by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 8:06 AM
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othermom
by Ruby Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:07 AM

I have taold the kids that first they are to tell the person to leave them alone and then go to a teacher. After that if a kid lays a hand on them they are allowed to hit back. There are not to hit first

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:11 AM
Actually at my stepson's school they will get assault charges even if they hit second so it goes on their record

Quoting Anonymous:

You know, most schools have a policy that kids that fight get suspended/expelled whether they hit first or last...
annasew
by Gold Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:14 AM

My kids are allowed to defend themselves.   My oldest (ds12) prefers to walk away tho.

mcginnisc
by *Claire-Bear* on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:18 AM
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No. Period. My oldest is a red belt in Karate and they are taught by their Sensei to walk away. End of story. It is drilled into their heads to 1.) say I don't want any trouble 2.) walk away 3.) get an adult. 

My 7 year old is tough and can hurt someone pretty badly so she knows not to use it unless there is no other recourse available... as in someone trying to kidnap/molest her or her sister. In that case, she is to use everything she knows and not to pull her kicks or punches like in class or when sparring with us. 


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fullxbusymom
by Ruby Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:18 AM

Nope they aren't allowed in school here.  Any form of hitting even if they are hit first is automatic suspension.  They are taught to find and get a responsible adult.  My older two who are now in HS have never had a problem and so far neither has my 6yr old. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:20 AM
I told them "I never want to hear that you STARTED a fight, but if someone else hits YOU FIRST, you sure as hell have my permission to FINISH it."
imuney
by Bronze Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:38 AM

 

Quoting Fields456:

They are most def allowed to defend themselves

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:48 AM

Hes not allowed to hit first, but he is allowed to defend himself.

fairy_fan
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:48 AM

I taught all of my kids that they don't hit first, but if someone starts something with them, they better be the one to finish it.  

3 of the 4 will stand up and defend themselves and won't take a bit of shit off of anyone.  My DD won't swat a fly and allows herself to be picked on.  Drives me up a wall.   

michiganmom5150
by on Dec. 29, 2012 at 10:51 AM
They know they can defend themselves. Don't start it, but you better end it. They are BIG for their ages and don't get picked on, so hopefully it will be a few more years before we worry about this.
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