DH left us almost three years ago because he couldn't find work. DD and I stayed behind because he's her stepfather, and we had to stay close to my exhusband, since that's her dad.
DD just told me that she thought we did the right thing "because money's worth more than time since you can buy stuff with it." And she still got to know her stepfather. And "without money we would be poor and have ended up like homeless people in the streets." (We would have not ended up like homeless people on the streets.) I told her that we would have been fine, but it would have been like it was before. And she glared and said that back then we lived in a one bedroom apartment and she didn't have all her stuff. She said her room was in the living room, which was true, whereas now she has a bedroom, a play room, and a room that's like a kiddie office with her desk and all her books. She has a lot of stuff. A lot of stuff. Before she had dvds on art and gymnastics and dance, and books on horses because she liked them. Now she has lessons in dance, gymnastics, art, and horseback riding. Because of my husband's job, I was able to stop working, and I volunteer at her school a lot, and know what's going on with her class, and she gets excellent grades.
But I don't want her thinking that money is more important than time. Gross. I feel like we messed up.