I need some help on how to.... EDIT (A vent as well because I made a stupid choice.. You will see why)
figure out bills for this weird living situation that I stupidly allowed to happen...
Okay everything is in MY name. We have a house 4 bedrooms 2 bathrooms. The living situation is its me, dh, and our 3 kids. Her and her son. She is recently divorced no job, pretty much been mooching off of us ( she has been my friend for over 20 years and I want to kick her lazy ass out!!!) WE both attend school online. My oldest 2 girls are in school full time and my youngest will go half days in August. I have a routine that is in place. The kids are in their room by 730 so that they can read and wind down and be asleep by 8 or 830 at the latest. We go to bed early (so does her son who is only 2 months younger than my youngest) she stays up all hours of the night and she in turns sleeps all day. Sure I pull all nighters (last night as an example I went to bed at 3 am and in a strange turn she went to bed at 930 and just got up I got up at 7 with my kids like normal) ANYWAY,
She is taking 2 rooms and a bathroom and I have 2 rooms and a bathroom. Since everything is in my name I have the bigger room and bathroom (which my kids use as well.). I lived in this house for 2 months before she moved in and the bills were a hell of a lot cheaper. I find my self being over whelmed because I am the only one cooking, cleaning, running errands, and taking care of the kids (where I have no problem doing so for my own kids cause well they are mine.But I end up by default taking care of hers because I will not not feed him or make sure that his needs are met. I am not some hart-less bitch) My dh works swing shifts and my kids know that the house is a miserable place when dad is on graveyards and he gets woke up because of noise. her kid SCREAMS and whines all day long.
Now she will be receiving her child support and dh and I are in agreement that she (and she knew this was going to happen) needs to help with expenses. I do not want to take all her money because I want her to move out and SOON... But first she needs to have a job and vehicle not just child support. I really need to get all this figured out now because if not I am going to tell her lazy ass to get the eff out. This may make me a bitch but her son too I really do not care where she goes. ( I am at the point to where I want this house to be that of MY FAMILY.)
So, I have talked to her and warned her that stuff has to change. Starting tomorrow everyone except dh (because he works swing shifts and is on graveyards right now) will be on my schedule. That means up at 5 kids up at 630 with t he exceptions of weekends because I do want sleep sometime. There are more house rules in place and an understanding that well I am tired of this crap I didn't let my brother do this to me I sure as hell am not doing this crap anymore. She has 2 weeks to find a job or she can be out on the street with her son. If she really wants to stay here there are 3 job openings in town that are walking distance from my house that she can get. No lets see how bad she wants a roof over her head...