overlook the fact that DS is young- 7 years old..
i went to the game room to clean up and on a piece of paper, he has 7 numbers on it. i call him down and ask what it is. he says its his friend's number, a friend from xbox live.
i asked if he gave out his number, and he said yes.
we had another long talk about what information we dont give out, what information is acceptable (first name only, state only- even age but nothing else)... we talked about people acting like somebody else, somebody younger when they could be really bad guys.... and what is appropriate if he wants to form an actual 'friendship' with those people (me talking to the kid, me talking with the parents, etc-- its happened before).
he's grounded from the xbox and the computer. additional chores and he'll have to write up why we dont give out our information.... but he asked if he can still play on his gameboy, since he cant get online through that.... we use it on car rides mainly- which we are about to do in a few minutes... not sure if i should banish ALL games, or just the ones where he can get online
ETA: this is for the most part his first offense. i think he got the kid's number, when i went to the bathroom, which is a floor above the game room... other than that, he's not left unsupervised. i'm always in the game room with him, either reading or practicing. i used to play along side with him, but have since fallen off the gaming scene. we talk about whats appropriate for online, like its a normal conversation. every year, at the beginning of his school (including kindergarten), the school would send out an internet access acknowledgement form- me and DS would talk about whats appropriate, whats not, etc then sign the paper. DS has formed one friendship, where he and the other child talks on the phone, as well as play together still... their friendship started through the xbox and progressed with BOTH mine and the other kids' parents permission. when that happened, DS knew the protocol to follow; i talk with the kid, talk with the parents, etc.
alrighty though! the car is packed and we gotta hit the roads. ugh. anybody else hate long car drives? i should be back in about 2 hrs (its about 4:30 when i'm doing this update) to see if there's any new replies and to reply back