She is now about 11 weeks and yesterday I texted her to see how she was feeling and she started freaking out! She said her and her bf werent going to work out (gave me NO reason) and that she dumped him. That was fine but then she starts saying how he will never see his child and I told her how wrong that was and that realisticly he will get some form of custody of his kid. So she says she is going to tell the courts all this bullshit and I proceeded to tell her she will need proof of most of the things she was accusing him of. So then she says she is going to tell him she cheated so he will think the baby isnt his and never be in its life!!! I freaked out on her and said "U WANTED TO GET PREGNANT WITH HIM! U DID IT WITHOUT HIM KNOWING AND NOW UR SAYING UR GOING TO KEEP HIM FROM HIS KID?! DO U KNO HOW FUCKED UP THIS IS?? U MADE THIS CHOICE NOW SUCK IT UP AND DEAL WITH IT!" <-- exact text...
She was pretty pissed that I freaked and once she calmed down she said she was wrong and would apologize to him. But I have a feeling this really is what she's going to end up doing. And honestly, if she does do this, I am going to tell the baby's dad that she got pregnant on purpose and tricked him and tell him all I know to help him get some custody because he is a good guy.
Oh and I also told her that since he has a job, car, license and a place to live he will probably get more custody than her since she has none of those things. I'm just frustrated. I told her how hard a baby is and pregnancy and the relationship aspect and financial side of it and she didnt listen AT ALL. Now she bitches to me about how shitty she feels while pregnant and how she hates her bf and has no where to go and no job and no money and its taking all I have to not freak out on her again!
My son wasnt planned but we had what we needed to have him (aka: jobs, a car, an apartment...) and its been hard, we have to skimp by some months, but our son has everything he needs. She cant provide anything for this baby. I'M the one collecting baby clothes and gear for HER kid because I dont want him/her to go without.
Ok vent over!