I've come here to give advice, I've come here to joke, but now I am here because i need help. ETA NEW NEW NEW! ADVICE?
I'm going anonymous because i don't want this to be linked to my SN just in case anything could come from it. But I am a long time cafe mom member, Ive been here since 07 :)
My DD is four my ex just started having a relationship with her this past July. So he has been in her life for about 6 months. He refuses to treat me with any respect when talking to me and has no care for what i say, Down right hates me. I take the high road and always try to take the high road and be nice. Kill 'em with kindness if you Will. That being said lets get to the problem.
Yesterday my DD went to spend time with bio dad, Around 330 I get a text from him that said
" pick DD up at X location"
I text back and say " Excuse me"
HE answers " I said Pick DD up at X"
I text back " I'm sorry but this is getting out of hand, I have been being accommodating with where you want me to pick her up as often as you have asked, but you do not get to demand things from me I also have things I do while you have DD I do not just sit at home"
He responds with "I met you at a totally different place than the one i wanted to the other day. And you left a mark on DD's face when you slapped her again"
I say " what? I have never hit DD in the face. she hardly gets spanked either. Rules at our house are that it's time outs and losing tv unless she is doing something that could hurt her or some one else. Then she gets a pop on the butt. Not that it's any of your business."
He never answered the last one. So i go to X location to get DD at 4 and he doesnt speak to me I leave with DD. I look at DD's face and see a small bruise. I didn't see it that morning before she left so who's to say he didn't do it?
I ask DD, Did you tell Bio Dad that i smacked you in the face?
She says " yeah, he told me you did.
I explain lying is bad and the whole don't do it again kind of mom speach. She then start to cry and i ask why
She says that Bio dad and grand ma told her that they we're going to get her taken from me because I hit her all the time.
I told her that good kids don't get taken from good mommies and that seemed to work
So i'm assuming ill be getting a visit from cps some time in the near future. What should i expect? I mean the house is always clean the kids are fed, I mean it's a normal average home. I am so scared because of the CPS horror stories ive read on here and i just don't know what to do, Especially when he is telling her to say that i did hit her in the face.
sorry for the length but please help me
ETA: These visits are CO, He gets DD Every other weekend from 8-4 on that saturday and sunday. He is not aloud over night vsits. It also states in our CO where to pick up and drop off. I was just being flexible when he would ask to change where i got DD
Today is the first visit since this stuff, He came to pick up DD I said bye. He turns around and says "oh BTW I moved you can pick her up at my new place." I said "no after last time i said we would go by the court order. Your visits are supposed to be at your moms and ill pick her up at your moms at seven." He says "what ever I won't be there. "I say "ok Ill call the police. See you at seven." he gets in the car with DD mumbling
I have no idea where his new place is so I have no idea where my DD is. Our paper work says his visits are supposed to be at his moms but its not like i can prove he's not there, and what do i do if he really doesn't show? I don't know where she is?!