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*updated again 1/4/13* ill be single in 1 hour 40 minutes! :) pic in replys page 21 23 and 24

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Dh cheated and I have all the pics and the emails printed between them! When I normally Brimg him the chocolate covered strawberries and wine ill have all the stuff under it.
I'm so scared and so giddy. I have held back for 4 months!

We are going to "talk". Ill update later. Sorry y'all. So.far its how'd you get these, and trying to blame me for snooping.

2nd update: first my baby got the first kiss of 2013!

Dh (stbxdh) never got mad. He tried to turn it on me a few times. He was defensive. I told him if he really wanted to explain himself then he needs to leave to get his facts in order. I wont deal with lies again. I made it clear that I am not agreeing to work anything out. But I will hear his reason, thoughts and feelings. After 9 years together I feel he should his chance to explain. So we chatted about his leaving and what it meant for our baby. I cried, it was hard seeing the man I depend on struggle to look at me. There is so much more but I need to tend to.the baby. And get some more sleep.
Thank you everyone!

**1/4 update**
Okay, so I have learned that women who want ever single detail are insane! He gave me some details of the "affair" and ugh it was horrid! I don't wanna hear what or how they did anything! Period. Not sure he gets that. He has been gone since the morning of the 1st. He's staying at my brothers.he has come over daily to see the baby. Sometimes ill hangout and sometimes ill just let them be. Depends. I talked to some friends about everything. Just to get it out. One suggested I not make a life long choice while I'm still recovering from birth. (Hormones and physical) and I agree. I was already a mess of emotion before this since giving birth. So I'm going to start talking to someone Monday! And try to get my mind together. As of this moment I plan to remain friends and Co parents. But I do not want to remain in a marriage that has hurt so much. My feelings may change but for now that is my choice.

I am holding up okay. I have moments where its so hard. And moments where I feel so free. Then I look my tiny baby and feel so bad for her not having her parents together and happy. Will she resent us? Me? Hus family is behind me 100% as is mine. They all understand. Fir bow despite all of this I am trying to his good side. He is a good daddy. He loves our baby. And I'm happy that we both agree he should be around as much as humanly possible.
The days seem to.blur together and the nights drag on. I'm tired and sleep when possible. Sorry I have not updated until now.
So that's the update for now.
Again thank you for all the support. It really means a lot to me right now.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:23 PM
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by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:31 PM

Omg, wow. Sounds like you will be tons better off without him. Good luck.

Quoting Anonymous:

No I have not. I was a high risk pregnancy and couldn't. I just had our first child 5 weeks 3 days ago.

Quoting Anonymous:

Have you been sleeping with him for the past 4 months then? I hope you have been tested.

by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:31 PM
Wow. Good luck in 2013. I hope it's a better year for you! I don't know how you were able to hold back 4 months! I react too quickly most times, so I probably wouldn't last 4 minutes before i'd blow!
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by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:32 PM

Awesome... Sorry for the issue mama. But I would love to see him get his.

Quoting Anonymous:

I wont post audio but ill post pics

Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

Quoting aeroslove:

oh my. can u take pics of his reaction or record it and post it here ? LOL plz

Oh hell yeah, that maybe well worth waiting up for... JERRY JERRY!

I am a friend, a wife,a daughter but the best title I have by far is Mother .

by Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:32 PM

good luck

by Anonymous 13 on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:32 PM
I'm sorry that happened but good luck with tonight and your future!
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:32 PM
The body would still be missing :P

Quoting Anonymous:

4 months?? have way more patience than I ever would!!!

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:33 PM
Home alone.

Quoting PixiePurple:

Why did you kep it to yourself for so long?  Have you just been collecting evidence?  Are you celebrating New Year's at home or will you be in front of a bunch of people?

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:34 PM
I loled.

Quoting Anonymous:

That awkward moment when he confesses it, breaks it off with you, and shows up with his gf before you get the chance to give him his "gift"

by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:34 PM

Good luck girl!

by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:34 PM
Wow! Bump for updates :)
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