My dh and I love dsd and want to be as involved as possible. He has joint custody with visitation. Dsd is always "sick" and can't come to visitation. It says in court documents that illness isn't a reason to cancel visitation. When we remind her of this, she goes ape shit and we finally end up getting visitation hours later than it was scheduled. We pay cs on time, we buy her clothes on top of cs, take care of her extra activity fees. We are good to her and I'm tired of Bm pulling this bs. We don't want to go to court. We have been keeping documentation of everything but I guess we will have to. It's making things difficult on our entire family. Our kids cry when they don't get to see dsd.