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13 year old dd snuck out tonight update

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I KNOW I'm gonna get bashed to hell for this but I need some serious advice.





Let me start by saying, dd is NORMALLY very well behaved. She's not rude or disrespectful, can have a bit of an attitude at times but she's 13, a slight attitude at times is to be expected, no?



Very early this morning Dh wakes up to use the restroom and go check on the kids and make sure they are all covered up since its freezing tonight and when he peeks in dd room she's not there. He checked both bathrooms and she's not in either. He wakes me up and says P is not in the house. I jump out of bed and run all over the house and she's nowhere. All of a sudden Dh phone goes off, its some kid, we will call him T. He says sorry P I can't meet you all at the school my mom is still awake. So Dh CALLS T and finds out that dd and a few other friends were gonna meet at our neighborhood park and then one of there cousins who is FUCKING 17 is gonna take them driving around. **dd was using Dh phone because hers took a crap and won't turn on** well she had erased the texts and numbers from Dh phone so if this kid hadn't text we would have had no idea what was going on. Dh was able to get one of the other kids phone numbers from T that did meet up at the park and Dh called it and found out THEY WERE 15 FUCKING miles away!!!!!! Dh told them to stay right there and then called the cops and Dh and the cops went to where they were. Dh said all the kids (6 total) were detained and parents were being called, the 17 year old was put in cuffs and in the back of a cop car. Dd was released to Dh but we have to take her to the station at 11 to speak with an officer.



What in the FUCK was she thinking? Oh that's right SHE WASN'T! all and I mean ALL trust is gone.



I have no idea what to do with this. I never snuck out as a teen, she has never had any huge disciplinary problems, the most is she was grounded for not picking up her room. We have rules and consequences for not following the rules. We are told Alllll the time what good parents we are because we have structure and discipline and are our kids parents not friends.



I need advice, how do I punish this? What do I do to make her understand what a big deal this is? I'm at a complete loss.





Ok now go ahead and tell me what a compleat failure as a mother I am, can't make me feel worse than Ialready do.


UPDATE

Hey everyone. Just wanted to update. We went to the police station and the officer that Dh talked to took Dh, me and dd to a room to talk. He asked her questions about the 17 year old she and the others were with, apparently the reason he was arrested was for a warrent he had for his arrest for marijuana possestion. The officer also wanted to put the fear of God in to her, he has a teen dd as well and knew what we must be going through. He told her what very easily could have happened to her and her friends.

Dd is grounded, all privileges have been taken till further notice. Dh and I talked with her at length about how wrong she was and how she has lost our trust and how disappointed we are in her.

I think she gets it, she cried to us, and apologised to us both and SWORE it was the only time, although I'm not sure how much of that I believe at this point. Dh got the alarms on his way to work and will.install.them when he gets home tonight.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 2, 2013 at 7:44 AM
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lazyd
by Bronze Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:26 PM
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Im in the same boat as you, i dont bash people.  My 14 yo daughter has "run away" twice (when she was 13, she just turned 14), both times cops called.  My daughter doesnt sneak out at night, she just doesnt come home.  She also spends her time with 16 to 20 year olds and we tell her that since they are that much older than her, they will get in trouble with the law, etc., cuz you're not suppose to have any "kids" in the car with you until your 18, etc.  All my daughter's friends smoke cigs and weed and drink.  My daughter just wants to be an "adult".  Not to bash here and i'll probably get bashed for it, but it is actually the families that are the most strict that their kids sneak out, smoke, drink to have fun, cuzthey never get to go hang out with their friends, etc.  We also couldnt track the where abouts of my daughter, cuz she intentionally left her phone at home.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 70 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:50 PM
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She's a teen, that's what they do. Don't feel bad ! I had 2 brother and a sister . All of us had our times we did things we shouldn't.
I was wonderful ages 13-17 but once I got UTI my senior year of high school. I started to do what I wanted.

No ones kids are perfect, and any of these mothers who are bashing need to watch what they say! It will come back to bite them on the ass
OneToughMami
by Ruby Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:53 PM

At least she is okay.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 71 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:25 AM
Mom you're doing the right thing! Trying to put the fear of God into that little girl before she ends up in a bad situation. Some parents are to afraid to parent... Sounds like your right track!!!
Allisonc7910
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:52 AM

 I can understand your fears but I don't think your child is going to become a felon or anything just because of this.  I can remember doing the same thing at her age.  I think you did a good job, suprised the cops came involved so quickly.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 39 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:58 AM
Oh stfu.


Quoting Anonymous:

Lmao. She snuck out. Teens do that. Big whoop. Atleast she's not pregnant.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 72 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:00 AM
I dunno what a good punishment would be. I snuck out at that age and never got caught. Funny thing. I went out the front door. My step brother snuck out his window. And almost broke his arm. He got caught. It was funny to me
sthflachk
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:02 AM
My parents ALWAYS thought it was my one and only time I did something when I got caught. It never was. Js
Quoting Anonymous:

I KNOW I'm gonna get bashed to hell for this but I need some serious advice.








Let me start by saying, dd is NORMALLY very well behaved. She's not rude or disrespectful, can have a bit of an attitude at times but she's 13, a slight attitude at times is to be expected, no?





Very early this morning Dh wakes up to use the restroom and go check on the kids and make sure they are all covered up since its freezing tonight and when he peeks in dd room she's not there. He checked both bathrooms and she's not in either. He wakes me up and says P is not in the house. I jump out of bed and run all over the house and she's nowhere. All of a sudden Dh phone goes off, its some kid, we will call him T. He says sorry P I can't meet you all at the school my mom is still awake. So Dh CALLS T and finds out that dd and a few other friends were gonna meet at our neighborhood park and then one of there cousins who is FUCKING 17 is gonna take them driving around. **dd was using Dh phone because hers took a crap and won't turn on** well she had erased the texts and numbers from Dh phone so if this kid hadn't text we would have had no idea what was going on. Dh was able to get one of the other kids phone numbers from T that did meet up at the park and Dh called it and found out THEY WERE 15 FUCKING miles away!!!!!! Dh told them to stay right there and then called the cops and Dh and the cops went to where they were. Dh said all the kids (6 total) were detained and parents were being called, the 17 year old was put in cuffs and in the back of a cop car. Dd was released to Dh but we have to take her to the station at 11 to speak with an officer.





What in the FUCK was she thinking? Oh that's right SHE WASN'T! all and I mean ALL trust is gone.





I have no idea what to do with this. I never snuck out as a teen, she has never had any huge disciplinary problems, the most is she was grounded for not picking up her room. We have rules and consequences for not following the rules. We are told Alllll the time what good parents we are because we have structure and discipline and are our kids parents not friends.





I need advice, how do I punish this? What do I do to make her understand what a big deal this is? I'm at a complete loss.








Ok now go ahead and tell me what a compleat failure as a mother I am, can't make me feel worse than Ialready do.





UPDATE



Hey everyone. Just wanted to update. We went to the police station and the officer that Dh talked to took Dh, me and dd to a room to talk. He asked her questions about the 17 year old she and the others were with, apparently the reason he was arrested was for a warrent he had for his arrest for marijuana possestion. The officer also wanted to put the fear of God in to her, he has a teen dd as well and knew what we must be going through. He told her what very easily could have happened to her and her friends.



Dd is grounded, all privileges have been taken till further notice. Dh and I talked with her at length about how wrong she was and how she has lost our trust and how disappointed we are in her.



I think she gets it, she cried to us, and apologised to us both and SWORE it was the only time, although I'm not sure how much of that I believe at this point. Dh got the alarms on his way to work and will.install.them when he gets home tonight.
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Momof3smoochies
by Silver Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:09 AM
Contact your local juvie and ask for a tour. They will treat her as an inmate and scare the sh*t out of her. I know what she did wasn't that bad. But trust me. If she's as well behaved as u thought. That will set her ass straight.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 73 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:16 AM

Last year on New Years at 3 am I got a phone call that my 15 y/o had been picked up for drinking...NEVER in a million years would I have thought she would do that.  She's a good kid...she just made a bad decision.  I heard from everyone how this was the beginning of the end and she would just get worse...blah blah blah...now shes almost 17 and has given me no other problems.  I told her that was her one and only get out of jail free card.  We pleaded guilty but I made her go in front of the judge anyways and he was super mean to her (which is what I wanted)  He told her if she pisses me off and I decide not to pay her fine fro the month then SHE will go to jail not me and next time she is arrested she will go strait to juvie...she's fine now...good grades...got a job...no problems...so don't panic just yet momma...everyone makes mistakes...The only difference between me and her when I was her age is I never got caught.  GOOD LUCK!!!

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