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13 year old dd snuck out tonight update

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I KNOW I'm gonna get bashed to hell for this but I need some serious advice.





Let me start by saying, dd is NORMALLY very well behaved. She's not rude or disrespectful, can have a bit of an attitude at times but she's 13, a slight attitude at times is to be expected, no?



Very early this morning Dh wakes up to use the restroom and go check on the kids and make sure they are all covered up since its freezing tonight and when he peeks in dd room she's not there. He checked both bathrooms and she's not in either. He wakes me up and says P is not in the house. I jump out of bed and run all over the house and she's nowhere. All of a sudden Dh phone goes off, its some kid, we will call him T. He says sorry P I can't meet you all at the school my mom is still awake. So Dh CALLS T and finds out that dd and a few other friends were gonna meet at our neighborhood park and then one of there cousins who is FUCKING 17 is gonna take them driving around. **dd was using Dh phone because hers took a crap and won't turn on** well she had erased the texts and numbers from Dh phone so if this kid hadn't text we would have had no idea what was going on. Dh was able to get one of the other kids phone numbers from T that did meet up at the park and Dh called it and found out THEY WERE 15 FUCKING miles away!!!!!! Dh told them to stay right there and then called the cops and Dh and the cops went to where they were. Dh said all the kids (6 total) were detained and parents were being called, the 17 year old was put in cuffs and in the back of a cop car. Dd was released to Dh but we have to take her to the station at 11 to speak with an officer.



What in the FUCK was she thinking? Oh that's right SHE WASN'T! all and I mean ALL trust is gone.



I have no idea what to do with this. I never snuck out as a teen, she has never had any huge disciplinary problems, the most is she was grounded for not picking up her room. We have rules and consequences for not following the rules. We are told Alllll the time what good parents we are because we have structure and discipline and are our kids parents not friends.



I need advice, how do I punish this? What do I do to make her understand what a big deal this is? I'm at a complete loss.





Ok now go ahead and tell me what a compleat failure as a mother I am, can't make me feel worse than Ialready do.


UPDATE

Hey everyone. Just wanted to update. We went to the police station and the officer that Dh talked to took Dh, me and dd to a room to talk. He asked her questions about the 17 year old she and the others were with, apparently the reason he was arrested was for a warrent he had for his arrest for marijuana possestion. The officer also wanted to put the fear of God in to her, he has a teen dd as well and knew what we must be going through. He told her what very easily could have happened to her and her friends.

Dd is grounded, all privileges have been taken till further notice. Dh and I talked with her at length about how wrong she was and how she has lost our trust and how disappointed we are in her.

I think she gets it, she cried to us, and apologised to us both and SWORE it was the only time, although I'm not sure how much of that I believe at this point. Dh got the alarms on his way to work and will.install.them when he gets home tonight.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 2, 2013 at 7:44 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 8:40 AM
Is there someone just randomly bumping old posts? The reply from today was asking if there were any new updates on my dd.

Quoting anyotherday:

har har har... well it was on the first page already so it isnt like I went back 2 months or more to find it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Idk but you just bumped this one again lmao



Quoting anyotherday:

who the hell is bumping all these old posts?! 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 8:48 AM
Very grounded and very busy with the extra work I requested from her teachers. She has earned back her radio but nothing else yet. Dh and I decided she's not getting her phone back till October, that's when her upgrade is due. Dh is taking her upgrade and she will get his old one, but she won't even get that back unless she's earned it. Were not making it easy on her at all. She has missed two games at school she wanted to see, a school dance and a trip with her youth group. She isn't happy but says she understands.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

I always think about this post whenever I hear something on the news about teens sneaking out.

How's your DD a month later?

Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks



Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

I was so glad to read this update.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 8:50 AM
It wasn't her phone it was her dads.

Quoting jerseydiva:

I am glad she was found safe and sound, but  I would say no more phone until she is at least 16, if she hadn't had the ability to communicate, she would have been home in bed!

TrouserMouse
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 8:51 AM

Teenagers.  They all screw up at least once, even the good ones.

jerseydiva
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 8:56 AM

You said hers was broken, so she has a phone that she can use, I meant NO phone ability at all, unless you are right there with her, and once again I am glad she is safe!

jle127431
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 8:57 AM

BEAT HER ASS... wish my mom would have done that to me

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 9:00 AM
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Thanks.

As of right now hers has been taken away. When or if she gets it back there will be even more restrictions on it than we had before.

Quoting jerseydiva:

You said hers was broken, so she has a phone that she can use, I meant NO phone ability at all, unless you are right there with her, and once again I am glad she is safe!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 9:03 AM
Well, its been a month now so its a little late for that. She was and still is very punished for this little stunt.

Quoting jle127431:

BEAT HER ASS... wish my mom would have done that to me

AnonyMOUSE715
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 9:04 AM
Dude really? For sneaking out once? Doucecanoeeee


Quoting Anonymous:

put her on the "Maury" show  in a show about bad teens...they'll take her to jail, and she's see where's she's headed if she keeps it up. 


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jle127431
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 9:07 AM

 well hopefully she wont try again... i am so scared that my dd is going to be like me and i am gonna have hell to pay for all the shit i did.. she is good right now so who knows


Quoting Anonymous:

Well, its been a month now so its a little late for that. She was and still is very punished for this little stunt.

Quoting jle127431:

BEAT HER ASS... wish my mom would have done that to me


 

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