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Man donates sperm to lesbian couple, now to pay CS?

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A sperm donor in Kansas is fighting a state effort to force him to pay child support for a child conceived through artificial insemination by a lesbian couple.

William Marotta, 46, of Topeka said he is "a little scared about where this is going to go, primarily for financial reasons," The Topeka Capital-Journal reported Monday.

When he donated sperm to Angela Bauer and Jennifer Schreiner in 2009, Marotta relinquished all parental rights, including financial responsibility to the child. When Bauer and Schreiner filed for state assistance this year, the state demanded the donor's name so it could collect child support for the now 3-year-old girl. Bauer and Schreiner broke up in 2010 but co-parent their eight children, who range in age from 3 months to 25 years.

"In the long run, I think this will be a good thing, but I'm the one getting squashed," Marotta said. "I can't even believe it's gone this far at this point, and there's not a damn thing I can do about it."


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Is this fair?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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CABZS
by Emerald Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:36 AM
Wow way to make more donors afraid to donate.

No not fair at all!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:36 AM
Smh. Im torn :-/
Louisianamom88
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:36 AM
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Not ok
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:36 AM
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definitely not fair. The state needs to stay out of the couple's business. Both of those women are taking on the role to raise that baby... no need to go after the donor. smh

In my state, I know a lesbian couple who are raising a child and the father is not in the picture at all, and they are on state assistance, but the state isn't going after the father at all. He's not even on the birth certificate. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:37 AM
It wasn't done by a licensed physician? Does that mean they had sex to make the baby? That must be why the state is going after him then.

Edit: Okay. I get it-turkey baster.
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tnmommy5
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:38 AM
That is not right on any level.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:40 AM

His sperm he pays no questions asked.

momof2boy2girl
by Valerie on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:41 AM


Quoting rosemagic01:

He gave up his rights. This isn't fair at all he can't get visitation there's no way he should have to pay for the child. Thats unfair. Any other man who signs off his rights after the kid is born doesn't have to pay for the child. The women should be forced to work money issues out between them. As if they are a married couple who broke up. They took on the responsibility of the children they don't deserve a 3rd income to take care of them! 

Actually, signing away your rights only means signing away on visitation/custody. You can't get rid of financial obligation unless the child is adopted by someone else.

nova.mommy
by Silver Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:43 AM
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Why should he pay for helping a childless couple, reguardless of their sexual orientation?

If this was a heterosexual couple, would the state be going after him or the other parent?

And if they broke up in 2010, how do they have a 3 month old?  Pregnancy is about 9 months.  

If this is allowed, I think you will see a decrease in donorship.  And not only will he suffer, but so will the many women, who for all reasons, need sperm donors.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:45 AM
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This is screwed up beyond all means. the woman who gave birth to that child should have said UNKNOWN she put him in that situation.

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