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Man donates sperm to lesbian couple, now to pay CS?

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A sperm donor in Kansas is fighting a state effort to force him to pay child support for a child conceived through artificial insemination by a lesbian couple.

William Marotta, 46, of Topeka said he is "a little scared about where this is going to go, primarily for financial reasons," The Topeka Capital-Journal reported Monday.

When he donated sperm to Angela Bauer and Jennifer Schreiner in 2009, Marotta relinquished all parental rights, including financial responsibility to the child. When Bauer and Schreiner filed for state assistance this year, the state demanded the donor's name so it could collect child support for the now 3-year-old girl. Bauer and Schreiner broke up in 2010 but co-parent their eight children, who range in age from 3 months to 25 years.

"In the long run, I think this will be a good thing, but I'm the one getting squashed," Marotta said. "I can't even believe it's gone this far at this point, and there's not a damn thing I can do about it."


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Is this fair?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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nikabear
by Gold Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:00 AM
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This is really fu*ked up!!! He did this out of the goodness of his heart and they go after him? How did they even get his name?????
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Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:00 AM
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I think it is ridiculous that they made the mom give out the donors name or threatened to cut off benefits....

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momof2boy2girl
by Valerie on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:01 AM

It isn't fair for him, but he didn't go through the proper channels, so the state is using that loophole. You can not sign an agreement saying that an outside party can't intervene. The state was not party to the contract he signed, therefor it is invalid. He and the mothers are not able to say the state can not persue him. Only a judge (representing the state) can make that call.

Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

Another article I read said he did have a contract. Just because they didn't use a physician doesn't mean they didn't have a contract, the state is just trying to say it is invalid because they didn't go through a clinic.

"Marotta, Bauer and Schreiner signed an agreement saying Marotta would be paid $50 per semen donation, with the arrangement including a clear understanding that he would have no parental rights whatsoever with the child or children.

The agreement also called for Bauer and Schreiner to hold Marotta harmless “for any child support payments demanded of him by any other person or entity, public or private, including any district attorney’s office or other state or county agency, regardless of the circumstances or said demand.”

Read more here: http://www.kansascity.com/2012/12/29/3986152/state-pursuing-child-support-from.html#storylink=cpy"




Quoting Anonymous:

He didn't though, the bottom of the article says that they didn't use a licensed physician, so I guess he just personally donated to the couple. Which still sucks, but that's the loophole the State is using.

Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

He didn't just sign away his rights though. He signed a contract that states in it he can't be pursued by the couple or in private/public or govenrnt party for child support.



There are contracts that protect donors.





Quoting momof2boy2girl:


Quoting rosemagic01:

He gave up his rights. This isn't fair at all he can't get visitation there's no way he should have to pay for the child. Thats unfair. Any other man who signs off his rights after the kid is born doesn't have to pay for the child. The women should be forced to work money issues out between them. As if they are a married couple who broke up. They took on the responsibility of the children they don't deserve a 3rd income to take care of them! 

Actually, signing away your rights only means signing away on visitation/custody. You can't get rid of financial obligation unless the child is adopted by someone else.






RobinBright
by Ruby Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:01 AM
Why? The child has two parents. Would you feel the same way about adoption-- if the adoptive parents file for PA, should the bio parents be held financially responsible? Egg donors too?


Quoting Anonymous:

His sperm he pays no questions asked.


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Aeonix
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:02 AM


Quoting momof2boy2girl:

Not fair at all. I feel for the poor guy. How did the state even get his name? It sounds to me like the two women in question went after him once things fell apart. Sadly, because Kansas is in the Bible Belt, they will go after the man that helped a lesbian couple have a baby. This is why we need equal rights for gays. Both women should be on the birth certificate and the man that donated his semen shouldn't be held liable.

That's what the girl (she will never be a woman) did to dh after he agreed to be a sperm donor (I wasnn't in the picture). She said she didn't get pregnant, and would find someone else. All parties had agreed that he would not be responsible in any way shape or form for this kid, that he was just donating sperm.  After her girlfriend left her for a man, she came crawling back to dh trying to break us up. She refused to do a DNA test. Once things went south with her girlfriend, the bitch thought she could get money from dh instead. 

Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:03 AM
The DCFs office demanded it when they applied for PA. The mom was told that Medicaid for her DD would be cut off if she didn't supply her sperm donors name.


Quoting nikabear:

This is really fu*ked up!!! He did this out of the goodness of his heart and they go after him? How did they even get his name?????

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MommyBoha
by Ruby Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:04 AM
No. This is ridiculous
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:04 AM
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No, it is not fair. I see why they did it, but it is not fair to go after a sperm donor for support. The two parents should be jointly responsible for supporting the child, and if they are unable to, then state aid can be used. In a two parent family, the state does not go after another person for support, why should it in the case of two lesbians who are broken up?

nikabear
by Gold Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:06 AM
Thats not his responsibility...........he is not the dad!!!!


Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

The DCFs office demanded it when they applied for PA. The mom was told that Medicaid for her DD would be cut off if she didn't supply her sperm donors name.




Quoting nikabear:

This is really fu*ked up!!! He did this out of the goodness of his heart and they go after him? How did they even get his name?????


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kehgiggles
by Bronze Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:11 AM

No. No. No. No. and No.

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