I am over reacting, and my pregnancy hormones are not helping :-(
Question: Am I over-reacting?
Total Votes: 11
So last night we went to Target, and DH kept trying to take the cart. I am the mommy, I am why we are at the store, I know exactly where what I am there to get is, apparently this bothers him. But first a little background:
I handle everything, and I am okay with that, I feel that generally most moms manage finances and household stuff. I have a meticulous plan and schedule for paying bills. I also handle all appointment scheduling and whatnot.
He comes home from work(6-7) and around bedtime (8-9) he gets on his computer with his buddies and plays games until 1 or 2. I can't fall asleep until he does because he will wake me and I will never get back to sleep, so around 1:30 or so I will ask if we can go to bed soon.
He generally doesn't wake up until 8:30-9 to go to work ( he just has to work 40 hrs/wk, the building is open and available 24/7)
He told me last night that he feels that if he wants a manager position he needs to practice being in charge and being manager like. I told him that I feel we are partners, there is no room for a manager over me. I kind of left it at that last night, because he only talks at bedtime, ( ya know 2am) and I was frankly mad and offended.
Then this morning he says " I don't mean I want to take over your life, I just want to take mine back" WTF does that mean? You sleep til 11 when you don't have work, you play video games constantly, yes I insist that you come with me if we are going somewhere as family when you are home. My father never did anything with us as a family, he stayed home, I never felt like he was part of the family, he was just the guy who took over the tv after 6pm, and occasionally drove us places. It is important to me that the kids feel like their father is part of the family.
I am 37 wks pregnant with #5, we are 27, he gave me no real explaination, and he refuses to say "love you" when we are fighting, which, frankly is when I need to be reminded of it most.