Have oral sex??? We had to stop having oral sex because I get frequent cold sores. The doctor said it can be transmitted to my husbands genital area if I have an outbreak or am about to have one and dont realize it (so obviously hard to know). I have been diagnosed with severe dysplasia which means I have HPV and it can be transmitted to him during oral sex and potentially give him throat cancer. So after discussing the risks with our doctors we decided we had to cut it out. Its been a challenge to say the least but our health is more important to us and if I gave him anything I would never forgive myself. I feel like a bad wife but its not that I dont want to these things with him. I definitely miss them and I know he does. We do have sex often though and we have a good sex life but I always have that thought in the back of my mind that im not giving him everything he wants.