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So, I admit it. I screwed up.

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I didn't mention this earlier because I wasn't sure how I was going to handle it. I had posted before how I let my son go with my ex's sister who is a former drug addict and has a history of alcoholism. He is 17 and wanted to spend time with his grandpa because he is very ill and not likely to live much longer. I felt it would be wrong to tell him at his age that he could not spend time with his family no matter how much I do not like my ex-SIL. I was already pissed because she said she would only keep him one week and she kept him two weeks.

Tonight, when we were having our talk about me being suspicious that he was smoking, he admitted to me that he smoked pot with his aunt. He was scared to admit it to me because he knows I would be mad at her. He made it a point to tell me he chose to do it. I explained to him that she was the adult (35 years old) in the situation and it never should have happened.

I just texted her and said:

You would think after losing your own kids because you couldn't stay clean that you would be smart enough to not contribute to a minor. I knew better than to trust you with my child. Do not contact my kids via phone, FB, or otherwise or I will report you to CPS and the police. That is if I do not decide to do it anyway. It is in your best interest to remove them from your FB. You will be lucky if I do not report you.



She has not responded.
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by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:45 PM
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TrouserMouse
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:58 PM
No, he wasn't smoking it here. He did it once with her at her house. He spilled it all when we talked. His history and what he has been up to lately.

Quoting Anonymous:

I was right! I knew it was pot lol.
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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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Aww man she sucks so bad. That's all there is to it. 17 to me is not a responsible adult.

kirstn007
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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He is 17 he can make his own decisions he is months away from being an adult! make him responsible for his own decisions! you wont be able to baby him and bubble wrap him for much longrr! we as moms can only hope we raise our kids right, point them in the right direction and give as much wisdom and life experience as possible. u sound like u have the - your-kid can do no wrong issue.
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Ollie123
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:00 AM
I thought your husband let your son smoke from a hookah. Did you turn him in?
Derpy
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:01 AM

wow.Good luck hun.

I would be furious

TrouserMouse
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:02 AM
He's not. So, it doesn't really matter.

If he were, he would either have to go to rehab or move out. If he wants to choose to do that, he won't be living here because I will not lose my license and ability to provide for my family because of his choices.


Quoting EAzizM:

So if he was 18 what would you Do? Since then he would be an"adult".



Quoting TrouserMouse:

I said that in the post. Like I said, she is the adult in the situation. She should have never let that happen. I trusted her to be responsible for my child to allow him to spend time with his grandpa. Contributing to him engaging in illegal activities is not being responsible for him.





Quoting EAzizM:

I am sure she didn't force him. He is 17. Dont place the blame just on her.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:03 AM
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eh. he's 17- almost an adult. it was on HIM to say no. i offer my brother to smoke with me. we smoked one time together, he's said no ever since then. he knows that i dont care if he smokes- its not a big deal to me.... yet he's responsible enough to say no. his decision is based on HIM- not me asking him, not his friends pressuring him to smoke.


sorry to hear that your son doesnt have a strong backbone, i guess


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:04 AM

oh i love hookah! i'm actually smoking it right now. =)

Quoting Ollie123:

I thought your husband let your son smoke from a hookah. Did you turn him in?


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:05 AM

You knew she was trouble to begin with.  I don't understand why you let him go.

EAzizM
by Erica on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:06 AM
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Go to rehab for experimenting with weed?? Lol ok. Good luck with that.

Quoting TrouserMouse:

He's not. So, it doesn't really matter.



If he were, he would either have to go to rehab or move out. If he wants to choose to do that, he won't be living here because I will not lose my license and ability to provide for my family because of his choices.




Quoting EAzizM:

So if he was 18 what would you Do? Since then he would be an"adult".





Quoting TrouserMouse:

I said that in the post. Like I said, she is the adult in the situation. She should have never let that happen. I trusted her to be responsible for my child to allow him to spend time with his grandpa. Contributing to him engaging in illegal activities is not being responsible for him.







Quoting EAzizM:

I am sure she didn't force him. He is 17. Dont place the blame just on her.
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