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So, I admit it. I screwed up.

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I didn't mention this earlier because I wasn't sure how I was going to handle it. I had posted before how I let my son go with my ex's sister who is a former drug addict and has a history of alcoholism. He is 17 and wanted to spend time with his grandpa because he is very ill and not likely to live much longer. I felt it would be wrong to tell him at his age that he could not spend time with his family no matter how much I do not like my ex-SIL. I was already pissed because she said she would only keep him one week and she kept him two weeks.

Tonight, when we were having our talk about me being suspicious that he was smoking, he admitted to me that he smoked pot with his aunt. He was scared to admit it to me because he knows I would be mad at her. He made it a point to tell me he chose to do it. I explained to him that she was the adult (35 years old) in the situation and it never should have happened.

I just texted her and said:

You would think after losing your own kids because you couldn't stay clean that you would be smart enough to not contribute to a minor. I knew better than to trust you with my child. Do not contact my kids via phone, FB, or otherwise or I will report you to CPS and the police. That is if I do not decide to do it anyway. It is in your best interest to remove them from your FB. You will be lucky if I do not report you.



She has not responded.
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by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:45 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:14 AM
that wasnt the point now was it? you asked if she called the cops on her ex for letting him smoke out of a hookah without knowing what he even smoke in it. just pointing that out.


Quoting Ollie123:

Quoting Anonymous:


I know. But it's not a long stretch to go from smoking tobacco in a hookah to smoking some weed is it my dear?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:16 AM

you could smoke weed out of it, but i dont do that. i've grown up from my weed stages. lol

but you get flavored tobacco. right now, i'm smoking 'Pink Lady' but i have like 8 different flavors; queen of sex, bubble gum, blue mist, pirate's bay, cupid's arrow, code blue, code 69. i need to get some more, but i dont smoke as often as i used to (used to be every night. now- its like three times a week). they have a ton of different flavors too. the place that i go, its a big wall with different brands and flavors-- about the size of a twin size bed.

Quoting Ollie123:

Quoting Anonymous:


What do you smoke in a hookah? I am just curious. I had friends that smoked pot out of one. But I guess you can get special tobacco for it too.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:18 AM
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You over react to everything it seems.  Chill the fuck out.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:18 AM

thats not true. i used to smoke weed when i was younger; 13-16 years old. i started smoking hookah when i was 20 years old. i'm 24 and since i stopped smoking weed, i havent touched it.

Quoting Ollie123:

Quoting Anonymous:


I know. But it's not a long stretch to go from smoking tobacco in a hookah to smoking some weed is it my dear?


EmilysMom2010
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:19 AM
I think you did the right thing. She was trying to be cool and she needs to grow the fuck up. He shouldn't have stayed another week. He was probably toking it up with her the entire time.
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BraydensMama163
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:19 AM
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First of all I'm glad you put her in her place.
Secondly I'm glad to actually see a mom worried and upset about her kid trying illegal substances.
Third consider it a lesson for you and
DS. Kids will be kids and nearly every
kid is gonna try it at least once.
And I'm glad he felt he could tell you the truth even if he was scared.
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skittlefart
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:21 AM

So he lied to you about the cooped up stuff? or am I missing something here...

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TrouserMouse
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:24 AM

 That would be a requirement for me to protect my license so that I do not lose the ability to provide for my household. It is a state requirement.

Quoting EAzizM:

Go to rehab for experimenting with weed?? Lol ok. Good luck with that.

Quoting TrouserMouse:

He's not. So, it doesn't really matter.



If he were, he would either have to go to rehab or move out. If he wants to choose to do that, he won't be living here because I will not lose my license and ability to provide for my family because of his choices.




Quoting EAzizM:

So if he was 18 what would you Do? Since then he would be an"adult".





Quoting TrouserMouse:

I said that in the post. Like I said, she is the adult in the situation. She should have never let that happen. I trusted her to be responsible for my child to allow him to spend time with his grandpa. Contributing to him engaging in illegal activities is not being responsible for him.







Quoting EAzizM:

I am sure she didn't force him. He is 17. Dont place the blame just on her.

 


GatorsWife4Life
by Christina on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:27 AM

 Ok, I don't agree with the people on here saying that she shouldn't take all the blame. Yes, she should. She is old enough to know better than to give a minor pot. I would be beating her ass up one side and down the other. He is 17!! Of course he is going to experiment and do things that you as his mother will not like but you sure don't need an adult who is going to add to his indescretions. I don't blame you for being mad. You are handling it better than I would momma.

Ollie123
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:27 AM
Quoting Anonymous:


it doesn't really matter. Even if it was just tobacco he is still under age.
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