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So, I admit it. I screwed up.

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I didn't mention this earlier because I wasn't sure how I was going to handle it. I had posted before how I let my son go with my ex's sister who is a former drug addict and has a history of alcoholism. He is 17 and wanted to spend time with his grandpa because he is very ill and not likely to live much longer. I felt it would be wrong to tell him at his age that he could not spend time with his family no matter how much I do not like my ex-SIL. I was already pissed because she said she would only keep him one week and she kept him two weeks.

Tonight, when we were having our talk about me being suspicious that he was smoking, he admitted to me that he smoked pot with his aunt. He was scared to admit it to me because he knows I would be mad at her. He made it a point to tell me he chose to do it. I explained to him that she was the adult (35 years old) in the situation and it never should have happened.

I just texted her and said:

You would think after losing your own kids because you couldn't stay clean that you would be smart enough to not contribute to a minor. I knew better than to trust you with my child. Do not contact my kids via phone, FB, or otherwise or I will report you to CPS and the police. That is if I do not decide to do it anyway. It is in your best interest to remove them from your FB. You will be lucky if I do not report you.



She has not responded.
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by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:45 PM
Replies (41-50):
TrouserMouse
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:27 AM

 Hookah: The new gateway drug!

Quoting Ollie123:

Quoting Anonymous:


I know. But it's not a long stretch to go from smoking tobacco in a hookah to smoking some weed is it my dear?

 


ksueditz
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:28 AM
Why he couldn't he go to rehab for 'weed?' My 15 y/o cousin is currently in rehab for 'just weed.' And it was court mandated.


Quoting EAzizM:

Go to rehab for experimenting with weed?? Lol ok. Good luck with that.



Quoting TrouserMouse:

He's not. So, it doesn't really matter.





If he were, he would either have to go to rehab or move out. If he wants to choose to do that, he won't be living here because I will not lose my license and ability to provide for my family because of his choices.






Quoting EAzizM:

So if he was 18 what would you Do? Since then he would be an"adult".







Quoting TrouserMouse:

I said that in the post. Like I said, she is the adult in the situation. She should have never let that happen. I trusted her to be responsible for my child to allow him to spend time with his grandpa. Contributing to him engaging in illegal activities is not being responsible for him.









Quoting EAzizM:

I am sure she didn't force him. He is 17. Dont place the blame just on her.

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laranadtony
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:29 AM

You did not screw up, your son did. He is old enough to go out and not do things he should not do.

As far as the SIL, I would hold her responsible for giving him the pot , but not for him smoking it.

Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:29 AM
I agree with you, OP. He is in your house with your rules.
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TrouserMouse
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:32 AM

 Are you stalking my son?  If so, you aren't doing a very good job because he doesn't listen to any music all day. 

Quoting Anonymous:

so its okay to listen to music all day about smokin weed, but then you get upset when he actually tries it? common sense missed you didnt it

 


alexakaym
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:32 AM

I hope your son was punished as well. Sorry, horrible cafemom etiquette, I didn't read all the replies. That is horrible that she did that and sad she lost her kids do to it. I grew up with my mother as a horrible drugaddict. I cannot fathom how you can do that as a parent. 

Ollie123
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:32 AM
For you son it is.


Quoting TrouserMouse:

 Hookah: The new gateway drug!


Quoting Ollie123:


Quoting Anonymous:


I know. But it's not a long stretch to go from smoking tobacco in a hookah to smoking some weed is it my dear?

 


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TrouserMouse
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:34 AM

 No, this stuff happened while staying two weeks with his Aunt and Grandpa. He told me about it during our talk about what he is doing at night while at home.

Quoting skittlefart:

So he lied to you about the cooped up stuff? or am I missing something here...

 


LLbaby143
by Bronze Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:36 AM
She's an adult, an irresponsible one at that! If the police caught her with a minor ---- your child would be taken! I'd be as pissed as you are!!!!
skittlefart
by Taste the Rainbow on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:36 AM

Ah. ....I'd kick my sister in the cunt if she pulled shit like that...good job and good luck~ 

Quoting TrouserMouse:

 No, this stuff happened while staying two weeks with his Aunt and Grandpa. He told me about it during our talk about what he is doing at night while at home.

Quoting skittlefart:

So he lied to you about the cooped up stuff? or am I missing something here...

 


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