I give up!!

[Anonymous]

I cannot to it all. I wish the sahm and breastfeeding bashers truly knew how hard it actually is! Your life consists of being a maid to your children and husband, a cook for your family and any potluck/event you or your dh is invited to, a teacher to your children,the food sorce so when baby is hungry you can't just prop up or hand them a bottle you have to stop whatever your doing to make sure your baby is happy, your job is 24/7 with no sick days or vacation, your needs and wants come dead last to make sure your dh and children are happy, 99% of the time your are never alone to have quite time, you have to deal with all the grocery shopping with the kids, the bills, all the Dr appointments, school events and meetings, if your in school your homework comes after everything including your sanity, any problems or stress falls on you because you are the go to person, you never get good sleeping because someone always needs something from you, your dh will be a lazy ass when home because "he works and you don't " . I just give up on trying to better myself. I can't do everything for everyone else and still have time to work on losing weight, go to school to get a career, and keep my sanity. Every ounce of me goes to every one else and I get forgotten about.

[Anonymous]

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh normally I can handle it but when Dh bitches at me for not picking up his mess it just puts me in a really bad mood.

Quoting wineisfine:

Welcome to the club, we are all going through it....some just handle it better.

That's a different issue. 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I just can't handle another huge blow out fight with him taking it to the extreme.

Quoting wineisfine:

Stop being a victim, handle it like a woman.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh normally I can handle it but when Dh bitches at me for not picking up his mess it just puts me in a really bad mood.

Quoting wineisfine:

Welcome to the club, we are all going through it....some just handle it better.

[MiniMax]

In that case ill be fine. I am a part of a team and he already does a lot to help me now. I have been really sick with the pregnancy and he works a hard job and helps if I need him too. Good luck to you. I hope things get better for you.

Quoting Anonymous:

If you have help and support you can handle it. I just have a lazy ass dh so it makes things twice as hard.

Quoting MiniMax:

Wow, umm this has successfully scared the s&!t out of me!! I am preg and a house wife currently and planning to bf our child.... Now I just feel like running as fast as I can for the hills!! :-) I'm just kidding!! I know each persons situation is different I wish you the best of luck. Truly.

[Anonymous]

I am a working mom and that is pretty much my life except for the breastfeeding and the lazy husband but add in being gone 11 hours a day. Being a mom is hard period. If you need a break, take one.

[wineisfine]

If you don't stand up for yourself then who will, say it until he hears you...if not ypu will deal with it always.

Quoting Anonymous:

I just can't handle another huge blow out fight with him taking it to the extreme.

Quoting wineisfine:

Stop being a victim, handle it like a woman.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh normally I can handle it but when Dh bitches at me for not picking up his mess it just puts me in a really bad mood.

Quoting wineisfine:

Welcome to the club, we are all going through it....some just handle it better.

[Anonymous]

Yea it's a lot like this but that's where we just have to chalk it up to that's life and this is what you have chosen for yourself at this given moment.

[Jcouch99]

My DH can be pretty lazy too. We're talking leaving wrappers about, not paying enough attention to DD while I'm cooking/cleaning. He just needs reminding sometimes that I'm his wife and partner, not his maid. We're pretty good about talking thing out and working together. I got extra lucky with him.

[Anonymous]

as if you know her life............I completely understand her post. What a horrible thing to say to someone.

Quoting winkyloafer:

...dude, it isn't all that bad.

[Anonymous]

this is an issue for me as well, and i am constantly amazed that being married can be more frustrating and harder than being a single mom. 

yes, yes, he works. wonderful. thats great. how about doing some dishes and helping pick stuff up in the evening after the kids are in bed? oh, sorry, you're too busy playing COD? great, nevermind then i will just do all the dishes from the big yummy meal i made but can't eat because anything i eat after 4 pm makes me puke. 

oh and thanks for NOT picking up all the toys on the floor, no problem, i will do that too, and then all that bending over will result in? you guessed it, more puking!

somehow, when dh is gone for school (2 months every year) i am broke as fuck but eveything runs smoothly. the kids are less whiney, the house is cleaner, we eat healthier. and i am not frustrated because the only other adult in the house doesn't help with fuck all other than paying bills.

so in essence, i feel your pain.

[Anonymous]

Lmfao you think working moms are exempt????? It's all hard!!!!!