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My walmart story! INSANE! Food stamps related.

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So I read walmart stories or stories about people saying something about food stamps to someone. I was on food stamps when I was a single parent, for about 2yrs and never had anyone say anything to me BUT I am not on them anymore, my dh makes enough where we don't need any PA or I wouldn't be staying home.

Anyways, today I went shopping and got $200 worth of groceries, my cart was completely full. I start unloading the cart and a lady with a teenage daughter comes behind me and scoffs "of course I get stuck behind someone with a lot of groceries" I don't say anything and keep unloading. I'm unloaded and talking to the cashier, mostly about my DD and how nice it is that my other 2 went back to school today and how I am a SAHM so going grocery shopping at 8am is so much easier than waiting for my DH to come home at 6pm. The lady behind me starts talking about food stamps and how she pays her taxes so young women can sit at home and do shit while using the government. Shes RANTING about this to her daughter and she keeps getting louder then starts shooting me dirty looks and at this point I realize she is talking about ME. This goes on for the whole time I am checking out and getting my groceries in the cart. Finally I am on the last few things and she says something about young teens using the system and the cashier gives me a look and I roll my eyes (I know wrong move but I didn't intentionally do it either) the lady behind me sees and FLIPS out! She's in my face screaming at me how I should be grateful and be on my knees thanking her for paying my way in life. The manager at this point comes up and asks if everything is ok. I tell him everything is fine (the lady stopped screaming though she was still standing really close), the cashier tells me my total which enrages the lady again and she goes "oh my god seriously people should stop having kids or get a fucking job". I pull out my debit card and hold it where she can see it and say "I am gonna pay with my debit card is that ok with you?" The ladys face turns BEAT red and she backs up. I pay and turn to her and tell her that "I am not a teen I am 26, I have 3 kids and am blessed to have a husband with a job to allow me to stay home without being on public assistance, but I don't think anyone who needs it should be ashamed and no one should ever make them feel ashamed either." She starts to apologize and I tell her don't, the only one she should apologize to is her daughter for being such an embarassment. I then handed her my therapist card (my dh and I are in marriage counseling to work on communication) and tell her she needs to get her anger under control and to have a great day. Then left.

I am SO surprised I kept my cool cause I really wanted to hit this lady and I have a temper problem but I knew if I got upset it would have ended worse at even while she is screaming at my my DD who's 2 was still calm and I didn't want to upset her. But you hear these stories and they seem so...untrue till it happens to you!

by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:48 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:21 PM
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Quoting Zacksmama82411:

Ugh! I hate people like that!!! What drives me crazy is that when I go grocery shopping, I always put my milk up first, then my eggs and bread (so they can put them in the basket to the side before everything else, because i used to be a cashier, I know the best way to pack them.) Well, the cashiers alway look at DS, look at me, then they ring in the milk and bread, and ask for my WIC check! I'm like, um, I have never ever been on PA, please do not insult me like that! Just because I'm shopping with my 16 month old, doesn't mean that I'm on WIC. My husband and I work hard to pay for what we have... People need to stop stereotyping other people... that is what is wrong with this society!!


I know you didn't mean too, but the fact that you say it insults you, that someone assumes you are on WIC is kind of offensive. You just implied there is something to be ashamed of if you have to use them, like we are somehow less than you and don't work hard, and  WIC is not the same as Food Stamps.

angevil53
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:21 PM
I hope people don't assume I'm on pa bc i sah. Though my friend who is a sahm was nearly appalled when i said i never ever got fs. You could've push her over with a hair! I don't think she ever met someone who's never used it.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:21 PM
I get asked this all the time. I putmy milk, bread, eggs and what not first, then they see the baby items and just ASSUME. It's like no dude, no wic, no pa.


Quoting Zacksmama82411:

Ugh! I hate people like that!!! What drives me crazy is that when I go grocery shopping, I always put my milk up first, then my eggs and bread (so they can put them in the basket to the side before everything else, because i used to be a cashier, I know the best way to pack them.) Well, the cashiers alway look at DS, look at me, then they ring in the milk and bread, and ask for my WIC check! I'm like, um, I have never ever been on PA, please do not insult me like that! Just because I'm shopping with my 16 month old, doesn't mean that I'm on WIC. My husband and I work hard to pay for what we have... People need to stop stereotyping other people... that is what is wrong with this society!!


angevil53
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:22 PM
That's what i was thinking. Just say no i don't get those.


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting Zacksmama82411:


Ugh! I hate people like that!!! What drives me crazy is that when I go grocery shopping, I always put my milk up first, then my eggs and bread (so they can put them in the basket to the side before everything else, because i used to be a cashier, I know the best way to pack them.) Well, the cashiers alway look at DS, look at me, then they ring in the milk and bread, and ask for my WIC check! I'm like, um, I have never ever been on PA, please do not insult me like that! Just because I'm shopping with my 16 month old, doesn't mean that I'm on WIC. My husband and I work hard to pay for what we have... People need to stop stereotyping other people... that is what is wrong with this society!!



I know you didn't mean too, but the fact that you say it insults you, that someone assumes you are on WIC is kind of offensive. You just implied there is something to be ashamed of if you have to use them, like we are somehow less than you and don't work hard, and  WIC is not the same as Food Stamps.


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Mommynwife26
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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I think the only think keeping me from going off was my daughter, she was clam the whole time and I knew if I got riled up she would start getting upset and I didn't want that. Plus the fact that my dh would be upset if I got thrown in jail lol.

Quoting 2ltlmonkeyz:

Yeah , you did better then i would have , you should have told her to mind her own damn business, slapped her and then said FYI I am paying for my food with my own money, you dumb cunt!


Jynnifer292
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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 You know, sometimes I read stuff and think, there is no way that someone would be that much of an asshole, but I encountered one once in the grocery store. It wasn't about PA. The woman in front of me was giving the bag packer, a young woman with down syndrome, hell about how she packed her groceries. The poor girl look like she was going to start crying. It was when she said to her, "I get that you are retarded but even you should be able to do this right."

OP, I did not handle it as well as you did. I asked her loudly, "Excuse me mam, do you have any children?" She rolled her eyes and said, "no" I said, "good we don't need ignorant assholes breeding and raising more ignorant assholes." Then I told the packer that she did just fine and the woman was a nasty bully.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:24 PM

troll

chalisa0
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:25 PM

I remember one time way back when I was about 19 or 20 and I was babysitting my niece and went there with my mil-to-be and some old man starting yelling at me about how disgusting it was that teenagers were having babies.  I couldn't even say anything I was so stunned.  It wasn't even my baby-but I love her to death and would claim her as mine any day!  (And she's 23 yo now.  LOL.  And the old guy is probably dead-hopefully.)

Zacksmama82411
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:26 PM

I'm not even going to go there. I was not insinuating that, I was just making it a point that it's insulting when someone ASSUMES your getting assistance, because people DO look down on people for it. I for one, do not, because you don't know my story, my SISTER is a single mom, who NEEDS her assistance, she works 40 hours a week and still cannot afford to pay for food/rent and bills. So I totally support it. But, it is insulting when someone just assumes. THAT was the point.

Quoting Anonymous:

 

Quoting Zacksmama82411:

Ugh! I hate people like that!!! What drives me crazy is that when I go grocery shopping, I always put my milk up first, then my eggs and bread (so they can put them in the basket to the side before everything else, because i used to be a cashier, I know the best way to pack them.) Well, the cashiers alway look at DS, look at me, then they ring in the milk and bread, and ask for my WIC check! I'm like, um, I have never ever been on PA, please do not insult me like that! Just because I'm shopping with my 16 month old, doesn't mean that I'm on WIC. My husband and I work hard to pay for what we have... People need to stop stereotyping other people... that is what is wrong with this society!!


I know you didn't mean too, but the fact that you say it insults you, that someone assumes you are on WIC is kind of offensive. You just implied there is something to be ashamed of if you have to use them, like we are somehow less than you and don't work hard, and  WIC is not the same as Food Stamps.


babybelly25
by Silver Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:26 PM
I can't stand people like that! You handled the situation better than I would have! Lol
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