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I get welfare and im not ashamed

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I get cash assistance which i will be using to get my baby stuff for her first day of preschool, i get food stamps, and starting monday i will be getting childcare. Why? Because when i was enrolled in college my first semester my classes were all over the place. Some were in the morning afternoon and night. I tried looking for a job and i couldn't find one. So after months of looking and no results i decided in march of 2012 i would apply for food stamps. A few months later i applied for tanf. Do i like being on it no i don't but i gotta do what i gotta do until her dad is served with child support papers. I'll admit from june until november i did nothing i wasn't in school i wasn't actively looking for a job because i was tired and needed my rest. This year is going to be totally different. Since all of my classes are in the afternoon i can work somewhere in the morning. Judge all you want i don't care one bit.

I don't know why some of you sound pissed and bitter about me taking a 6 month break ecspecially you stay at home moms you don't work you dh does so be quiet lol. I never said i was proud i never said i was entitled i said i wasn't ashamed because of it. BIG DIFFERENCE!!

by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:28 PM
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blsdbyangel07
by Evil Food Lady on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:39 PM
Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:




I dont think she is proud to be on it. I sure as hell am not. In that aspect im ashamed but as long as one doesnt lie to get help or abuse it you shouldnt be ashamed to get help. I know on cm ive seen ppl who say they are proud so i know it happens.. rather disgusting!
kaykaymomi10
by Platinum Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:39 PM

i didn't go to school fall semester because i couldn't afford it other wise i would have been there.

Quoting NiCo86:

 I fully expected this to be an anonymous. My biggest complaints are 1) if you can't afford to go to college w/o being on assistance, and you have a child to care for, personally I find providing for my child a higher priority than my education and 2) you chose to not work or go to school because you felt as if you deserved rest, and you got this rest at the expense of tax payers.

Other than that ... IDK good for you?


emptyreliquary
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:39 PM

I don't think people should feel shame to be on welfare, nor do I think they should be proud or glib about it. Like you said, You gotta do what you gotta do. Good luck, I'm glad you are getting your education and working towards your future. 

wonderwomanT08
by Ruby Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:39 PM
If she is not working how is she paying for school? Somebody is paying for it


Quoting Anonymous:

Uh.. where does she say she is going to school for free? Assume much?




Quoting Anonymous:

I wish I could have gone to school for free and get paid.


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SRUsarahSC
by Platinum Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:39 PM

thanks, winky.  I would KILL for six months to rest!

Quoting winkyloafer:

Let me check my coin purse, girlfriend.


Quoting SRUsarahSC:

I'm tired, I would like a rest. Anyone care to support me with money and food from June through November?



Mrs.Bryant1201
by Platinum Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:40 PM
Dont care unless your goal is to stay on welfare. Im all about helping ppl that help themselves. Gl with school. Things will get better. I do have a problem with ppl who have no ambition to eventually get off the welfare tit.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:40 PM
I don't understand the proud feeling either but I really don't understand the need to be ashamed about it. It's there to help people.

IMO if you *general you, not you personally* show that you are ashamed of getting help and your children see how shameful it supposedly is to get help, then it would prevent them from getting help when/if they truly need it.


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

Its great that its there, and people who need it SHOULD use it. I just don't quite understand being proud of using it. I've always been ashamed of needing it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

It's there to help you. It's because people are looked down upon and forced to be ashamed about receiving help that many families end up on the streets or starving instead of using the resources that are there for them!





Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

I guess I don't understand that attitude. I'm almost done with welfare (done with cash, on food for 5 more months and low-cost medical for another year for the kids), and I was always ashamed to be on it. I was ashamed that I needed the help. I don't understand how anyone would NOT be ashamed of being unable to support themselves. 





Jessica_Esqueda
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:40 PM


Quoting blsdbyangel07:

Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:




I dont think she is proud to be on it. I sure as hell am not. In that aspect im ashamed but as long as one doesnt lie to get help or abuse it you shouldnt be ashamed to get help. I know on cm ive seen ppl who say they are proud so i know it happens.. rather disgusting!

She reads as entitled and proud. I hope she's not and it's just a communication issue. I agree, pride in welfare is pretty disgusting. 



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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:40 PM
lol well you should be ashamed...you didnt want to work so you sat on your ass and let others take care of you...that is shameful! I worked went to school and managed to do so without pa...and it wasnt all that hard most of the time. I never found it hard to have a job that worked around my school schedule...i worked at sears and took in my schedule every semester and they blocked out my class times and scheduled around it...you are exactly what is wrong with entitlement with this country!
winkyloafer
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:41 PM
I'll take your job if you don't mind babysitting. I'm anxious to go back to work now!


Quoting SRUsarahSC:

thanks, winky.  I would KILL for six months to rest!


Quoting winkyloafer:

Let me check my coin purse, girlfriend.





Quoting SRUsarahSC:

I'm tired, I would like a rest. Anyone care to support me with money and food from June through November?





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