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I get welfare and im not ashamed

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I get cash assistance which i will be using to get my baby stuff for her first day of preschool, i get food stamps, and starting monday i will be getting childcare. Why? Because when i was enrolled in college my first semester my classes were all over the place. Some were in the morning afternoon and night. I tried looking for a job and i couldn't find one. So after months of looking and no results i decided in march of 2012 i would apply for food stamps. A few months later i applied for tanf. Do i like being on it no i don't but i gotta do what i gotta do until her dad is served with child support papers. I'll admit from june until november i did nothing i wasn't in school i wasn't actively looking for a job because i was tired and needed my rest. This year is going to be totally different. Since all of my classes are in the afternoon i can work somewhere in the morning. Judge all you want i don't care one bit.

I don't know why some of you sound pissed and bitter about me taking a 6 month break ecspecially you stay at home moms you don't work you dh does so be quiet lol. I never said i was proud i never said i was entitled i said i wasn't ashamed because of it. BIG DIFFERENCE!!

by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:28 PM
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mybabiesmom1
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:58 PM

its not about being ashamed they can't support themselves. its about not being ashamed that they asked for the help. 


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NiCo86
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:59 PM
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 I'm sorry ... how old are you?

And you know ... you can fill out estimated tax information on the FAFSA.

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

ok lets try this again my mama didn't file her taxes until september classes started in august i couldn't afford to go that semester

Quoting NiCo86:

 You chose not to work or go to school that semester. If you are truly as bad off financially as you are, I am sure you qualified for grants and your college probably offers income based grants and scholarships. If you are on public assistance and you weren't going to school, I do not feel as if you had the right to "take some time off to rest" ... the rest of us who are actually working don't get that luxury!

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

i didn't go to school fall semester because i couldn't afford it other wise i would have been there.

Quoting NiCo86:

 I fully expected this to be an anonymous. My biggest complaints are 1) if you can't afford to go to college w/o being on assistance, and you have a child to care for, personally I find providing for my child a higher priority than my education and 2) you chose to not work or go to school because you felt as if you deserved rest, and you got this rest at the expense of tax payers.

Other than that ... IDK good for you?

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 18 on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:01 PM
so who signed you up for such an erratic Schedule?
because I work and go to school full time. I had a choice on the times I could go to what classes when I signed up for them.
like I take all morning classes so I can work in the evenings.


that's just my first thought when I read the post.
sweetieiv
by Ruby Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:01 PM
I agree with this. Plus my sil had a good job and then suddenly she decided that she was tired and needed a break so she quit her job and got on welfare. I was like wtf? That's not fair for her kid because its only teaching the daughter to be lazy. But I am glad that op is actually going to school to better herself and hopefully she will be out of pa once she graduates. It sucks to need help but hey children need to eat and its not the kids fault that the dad isn't responsible.


Quoting Anonymous:

If you don't care what we think.... why are you telling us? And I disagree with the "tired" thing. If everyone just laid around because they were tired... how well would that work? Glad you are in college, though, so hopefully you can make a better life for yourself.


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kaykaymomi10
by Platinum Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:04 PM

i was told i could do this but they would still need her tax information and im 19 btw

Quoting NiCo86:

 I'm sorry ... how old are you?

And you know ... you can fill out estimated tax information on the FAFSA.

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

ok lets try this again my mama didn't file her taxes until september classes started in august i couldn't afford to go that semester

Quoting NiCo86:

 You chose not to work or go to school that semester. If you are truly as bad off financially as you are, I am sure you qualified for grants and your college probably offers income based grants and scholarships. If you are on public assistance and you weren't going to school, I do not feel as if you had the right to "take some time off to rest" ... the rest of us who are actually working don't get that luxury!

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

i didn't go to school fall semester because i couldn't afford it other wise i would have been there.

Quoting NiCo86:

 I fully expected this to be an anonymous. My biggest complaints are 1) if you can't afford to go to college w/o being on assistance, and you have a child to care for, personally I find providing for my child a higher priority than my education and 2) you chose to not work or go to school because you felt as if you deserved rest, and you got this rest at the expense of tax payers.

Other than that ... IDK good for you?


 


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 19 on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:04 PM

Dang, I didn't realize PA was there to support people who are "tired." I can't wait to tell DH! His 4 weeks of earned vacation isn't anything to the 6 months your bum received. SMH

You do sound entitled and lazy. 

Bubbie0809
by Ruby Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:06 PM

Why would you/should you be ashamed?  you do what you need to do to take care of your family.

kaykaymomi10
by Platinum Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:07 PM

at the time i had to sign up for classes that wouldn't overlap and most of the good class hours were taken. i didn't have a car so i couldn't work during the day and my aunt was such a bitch to me she wouldn't watch my daughter if i worked nights. so i was pretty much fucked. and to make this semester even better my car decides to mess up so hopefully i won't get a call about a job interview before my car gets fixed.

Quoting Anonymous:

so who signed you up for such an erratic Schedule?
because I work and go to school full time. I had a choice on the times I could go to what classes when I signed up for them.
like I take all morning classes so I can work in the evenings.


that's just my first thought when I read the post.


NiCo86
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:09 PM
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 babies having babies ... smh

regardless ... once you start having children you are not considered a dependent ... you shouldn't need your mothers tax information for your FAFSA, only your own.

Still doesn't excuse you from working to support your child. There are online courses that you can take, there are even accredited universities that are strictly online where you could work and do your schooling around your work schedule. Instead, you CHOSE to not work and CHOSE to not go to school at the same time.

THAT is not what welfare is intended for, it's intended for people who are actively trying to get back on their feet.

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

i was told i could do this but they would still need her tax information and im 19 btw

Quoting NiCo86:

 I'm sorry ... how old are you?

And you know ... you can fill out estimated tax information on the FAFSA.

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

ok lets try this again my mama didn't file her taxes until september classes started in august i couldn't afford to go that semester

Quoting NiCo86:

 You chose not to work or go to school that semester. If you are truly as bad off financially as you are, I am sure you qualified for grants and your college probably offers income based grants and scholarships. If you are on public assistance and you weren't going to school, I do not feel as if you had the right to "take some time off to rest" ... the rest of us who are actually working don't get that luxury!

Quoting kaykaymomi10:

i didn't go to school fall semester because i couldn't afford it other wise i would have been there.

Quoting NiCo86:

 I fully expected this to be an anonymous. My biggest complaints are 1) if you can't afford to go to college w/o being on assistance, and you have a child to care for, personally I find providing for my child a higher priority than my education and 2) you chose to not work or go to school because you felt as if you deserved rest, and you got this rest at the expense of tax payers.

Other than that ... IDK good for you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

armywife0424
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:09 PM
Seriously you needed 6 months worth of rest? Excuses, thats all that is. I feel for you being a single mother but that should give you more on an incentive to work harder not slack off.
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