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I guess my boyfriend doesnt want to know..UPDATE!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

About all the guys that hit on me. Im a waitress in a bar/resturant and i was telling my bf about how this guy was sooo disappointed when he found out my age. I mean its funny because stuff like this happens all the time to me so my manager was just cracking up. The funny thing is when i was pregnant he would tell me stories like this all the time

 

He texted saying he cant be with me if i think its ok that other guys hit on me....as if i can control what other people do...is it just me or is he being a little bitch?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:01 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:12 PM

My husband and I both get hit on even though the other is standing right there. You're right, you can't control what other people do, you can only control how you react to the advances.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:13 PM
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I think a lot of women confuse 'hitting on them' with making eye contact.

Beauty91805
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:16 PM
Exactly this! It's really common sense hun.


Quoting xMs.Shannax:

Dont tell him about it, duh!! No Man wants to hear about how his woman is hit on all the time and you seem to enjoy the attention which is probably why he is annoyed.

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spicy_n_sweet
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:16 PM
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You are correct.  You have no control over other people's actions.

However, you have full control over your own. Telling him constantly about the men who hit on you at work just to get a reaction/rise out of him and/or to play tit for tat because he used to do that to you is immature and a sure fire way to poison a relationship.   It's a pointless action done for a pointless reason.   Really be honest with yourself as to why you share what you share with him and what you are trying to get out of it. You may find that your reasons really aren't worth it or meaningful at all and you are just causing issues where there need not be any.

Amybelle
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:18 PM

This relationship is obviously doomed, cut your losses, move on, grow up, & get some therapy to improve your self-esteem & maturity.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:48 PM


Quoting spicy_n_sweet:

You are correct.  You have no control over other people's actions.

However, you have full control over your own. Telling him constantly about the men who hit on you at work just to get a reaction/rise out of him and/or to play tit for tat because he used to do that to you is immature and a sure fire way to poison a relationship.   It's a pointless action done for a pointless reason.   Really be honest with yourself as to why you share what you share with him and what you are trying to get out of it. You may find that your reasons really aren't worth it or meaningful at all and you are just causing issues where there need not be any.


I think its because I feel he doesnt appreciate me as much as he should so I want him to realize other men find me attractive because he doesnt tell me i am enough imo..

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:53 PM


Quoting Nicky2911:

I can seem him saying that he doesn't think you should be telling him about every little guy that hits on you but it is silly if he wants you to feel stressed/upset every time a guy expresses an interest in you... especially in your line of work where you are exposed to many people all day and are always trying to be nice.


i dont tell him every time it happens..i only tell him when its a funny story but whatever ig i just wont talk about it anymore.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:54 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

My husband and I both get hit on even though the other is standing right there. You're right, you can't control what other people do, you can only control how you react to the advances.

yeah and iv told many i have a boyfriend...but he doesnt believe i tell anyone. and ik everyone is going to say well he doesnt trust u so you should just dump his ass

spicy_n_sweet
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:54 PM


Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting spicy_n_sweet:

You are correct.  You have no control over other people's actions.

However, you have full control over your own. Telling him constantly about the men who hit on you at work just to get a reaction/rise out of him and/or to play tit for tat because he used to do that to you is immature and a sure fire way to poison a relationship.   It's a pointless action done for a pointless reason.   Really be honest with yourself as to why you share what you share with him and what you are trying to get out of it. You may find that your reasons really aren't worth it or meaningful at all and you are just causing issues where there need not be any.


I think its because I feel he doesnt appreciate me as much as he should so I want him to realize other men find me attractive because he doesnt tell me i am enough imo..

Those aren't actions that will earn appreciation or encourage it to be shown.   Other men finding you attractive isn't going to make him change how he treats you, and you rubbing it in his face to try and illicit that change can/and will do nothing but cause problems.

If you are not getting the type of interaction, the type of treatment, etc that you feel you want, need and deserve from him, trying to receive it from positive means is the best course of actions. Negativity breeds negativity. Pettiness breeds pettiness.    Now I'm sure you are saying to yourself "I've tried, I've tried talking to him, I've told him how I feel....etc".  However, have you truly communicate those things in an open, honest and constructive manner that he truly comprehends. Not him just saying "yeah yeah I know I'll change", but in a manner in which he truly and fully comprehends the issues, why they are issues, how they make you feel and how you can work together to make it better?  Playing tit for tat isn't going to make anything better. That's working against one another and not working together. To accomplish anything in a relationship that is positive, that type of patter/behavior/reaction has to change.

lnrmom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:56 PM
He is being a bitch.
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