Is it wrong of me to get mad at him for eating in front of the kids?
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Here's the situation:
Ex is coming over to visit the kids today. He asks if the kids have eaten lunch yet. I say no because I haven't much to eat here since I haven't been to the store yet. (plus they got up at noon & ate breakfast then) So he says when he gets here I can go to the store. I said I wasn't prepared to go just yet but I did plan on it. He then tells me he will wait til I get back from the store to go get himself something to eat. I get mad & said "that's real nice just eat in front of them!" & hung up.
My problem is he knows I can't afford to get fast food whenever but yet he flaunts it in front of the kids every time he is over. I don't understand why he can't eat before he comes over to see them! Am I wrong for wanting him to eat before he gets here? This way they aren't begging him for food or me to go get them fast food!
If he's going to eat at your house, he should at least bring something for them too. If anything, you can give him the cash for bringing it to them.
"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" Romans 14:19
As in why doesn't he buy them some too? Or why don't I fix something for them? Because he is cheap. And because like I explained I can't afford it myself nor do I have the food in the house right now for them to eat lunch. I planned on going to the store child free when he came over.
Quoting Anonymous:
Why cant they just eat it with him then ??
If I could afford to get them fast food I would but I can't. It's not something I budget for because it's not something we need. I do budget for Littel Ceasars Pizza once every 2 weeks when I get paid because it's $15 for all of us to eat & fast food for 6 would cost way more than that!
Quoting jillbailey26:If he's going to eat at your house, he should at least bring something for them too. If anything, you can give him the cash for bringing it to them.
The kids are picking up on this meaness and tension. I would have just said great! I would suggest that I go get some food, and he make it and eat with the kids while I go do something else. Honestly, you are in a position to be petty like him, or take the higher road.
I'm tired of nonparents being pissy in the workplace
Would you ever have kids with a man who graduated with $200,000 in student loans?