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Submissive wife...

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I am not a submissive wife, but I have cousins that are, and I find it completely tragic.

 

One of my cousins in particular, is very open about it and brags about how great her life is, and yada yada yada...She claims how romantic her hubby is because he told her that it would be okay for her to take a nap today....How the hell is that even remotely romantic. And when I speak to her directly, he ALWAYS cuts her off, and speaks for her. I never actually get to speak to my cousin. When I was in college, I was at a family function and they were there, and she had gotten a moment away from him, and she asked me how life was going, and I was telling her what I was studying in school, and then he pops in and says, You're studying what? Oh, a woman doesn't need to know any of that. What you should do, is find yourself a man to take care of, and let the men worry about things like that...

I left...fuck that. If I had stayed I'd have thrown something at him.

He doesn't treat her well...I'm almost positive hes cheating on her too.

 

I have another cousin who is, or was a submissive wife, but her husband is divorcing her because she said that he told her, that she was boring, and his life was going no where with her. So no shes stuck with two kids, hasn't had a job in 8 years, and now she has it in her head that no one wants her because shes too boring.

 

Its fine if you want to be a submissive wife, just be careful, because you could end up with a shitty husband that really, just uses you to do his laundry. Thats what all the submissive wives I know, have become.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:40 PM
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TDMumof3
by Bronze Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:50 PM
I guess you could say I'm a submissive wife but a little different. I tend to children do housework pay bills etc but I have a say on what I do if I wanna take a nap he doesn't tell me I can or can't but he does make sure I'm not being hurt by people
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goodnightmama
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:51 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. Either doormat or abuse. I may be submissive (and new) but there is no way I would allow my dh to treat me like that.

Quoting Beautiful31mom:

They do not sound submissive they sound like doormats which are two totally different things. My Husband would never ever treat me like that.



I am very happy as a submissive wife.
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la-cosa-nostra
by Gold Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:52 PM
I could never be a submissive wife anyway but her husband sounds like an abusive, sexist asshole. He let her take a nap? Is he her father? I do what I want, when I want and would never be with a man who would attempt to change that.
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artistmom889
by Bronze Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:52 PM

 there is a difference between submissive and doormat. I try to be one , but refuse to be the other. If my husband could not return the respect, and love, I would not be with him.

celestegood
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:53 PM
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This exactly. And I am a very happy respected and well treated submissive wife.

Quoting mommyof11050307:

That isn't being a submissive wife. Their husbands sounds like assholes. Now I'm so not a submissive wife at all. But a husband is the head I household and has final say but takes what the wife says into an account. He respects her and treats her like a queen. She's his help mate. That's how I've been explain what true submissive marriage is.
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celestegood
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:59 PM
Your examples are of women who are being abused or married to assholes.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:12 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:13 PM

I'm a submissive wife and my husband doesn't treat me like that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:16 PM


Quoting celestegood:

Your examples are of women who are being abused or married to assholes.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:18 PM
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