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Dh wants to go to a movie tomorrow

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We both want to see The Hobbit, we haven't been on a date together since May of last year, but I don't like leaving dd (or even ds, really) at dh's parents house. Dd is 9 months, is crawling and will find stuff to put in her mouth. Their house isn't child proof, they don't have a gate for their stairs, she can get into the kitchen and pick stuff off the floor (they don't sweep often), and when we were over there a couple weeks ago, their little dog growled and snapped at dd over food on the floor (he's not a kid dog and even growls at ds), scratched/bruised her face. So when we were over there on New Years Eve, I didn't get to hang out and talk to adults...I was stuck making sure dd didn't get bit by the dog or pick something off the floor because my nieces are pigs and leave food and stuff all over the place. Dh and everyone was playing a board game and, as usual, I didn't get to participate...I tried but I kept having to stop dd from going into the kitchen or from going near the dog.

Anyway. I told dh I wanted his mom to come over here, mostly because of dd, but ds is allergic to something in their house. Everytime he goes over there his eyes get red and puffy, he sneezes, coughs, etc. He has allergies anyway but he's never like that at home. We go over to their house for holidays and when we eat dinner with them. They rarely come to our house.

MIL won't put her dog in her room while dd is there because her dog retaliates by shitting or pissing somewhere. I don't go anywhere or do anything unless dh is at home with the kids or we all go together...and hiring a babysitter isn't an option because I don't know anyone here and I don't like people who aren't family watching my kids. MIL told dh today that she would like it if the kids went to their house tomorrow so she could do laundry...so idk if she'll come over to watch them. I told dh just to go the movie with his dad or something. I could tell he was kind of frustrated when I said that but I don't want dd getting hurt.

How would you feel about this? And I don't think I'm overreacting...I don't like the idea of my 9 month old choking, falling down stairs or being mauled by a dog, knowing these possibilities, would you feel the same?

Eta: Lol some of you think I'm making up excuses, yet a lot of women on here are SAHMs because they don't trust daycares or anyone to watch their kids. How am I any different than you?
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by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:45 PM
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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:18 PM

I would contact your local HS guidance counselor and tell her to have some responsible teens interested in babysitting to give you a call. Someone on here said you can contact the Y also. All those teens have passed background checks. Just a better way than an ad in the newspaper.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:18 PM

 You need to fucking relax!!    You are to much, I feel sorry for your kids.   If she isnt coming to your home then I guess you need to figure out how bad you want to spends some alone time w/ your hunny,  Seems to me he really wanted to w/ you.

onethentwins
by Platinum Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:19 PM

I think you're right on that a 9 month old shouldn't be in a dirty house.

Forget going to the movies for a few years, do date night at home.Put the kids to bed. Cook a nice meal, open a bottle of wine (or two) and watch something at home.

Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:19 PM
Yeah, I do, but I never will unfortunately. And my kids are well cared for, but thanks anyway (:

Quoting Anonymous:

 You need to fucking relax!!    You are to much, I feel sorry for your kids.   If she isnt coming to your home then I guess you need to figure out how bad you want to spends some alone time w/ your hunny,  Seems to me he really wanted to w/ you.

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Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:22 PM
That and ds's allergies...their basement is really dusty and he goes down there sometimes. When he does, he is such a mess :\ we used to go out often when ds was a baby but his (bio) grandma took him or came to our house.

Quoting onethentwins:

I think you're right on that a 9 month old shouldn't be in a dirty house.


Forget going to the movies for a few years, do date night at home.Put the kids to bed. Cook a nice meal, open a bottle of wine (or two) and watch something at home.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:22 PM

 you keep on doing shit like this & next time we can hear a post from you how he is cheating on you.

Quoting Devious333:

Yeah, I do, but I never will unfortunately. And my kids are well cared for, but thanks anyway (:

Quoting Anonymous:

 You need to fucking relax!!    You are to much, I feel sorry for your kids.   If she isnt coming to your home then I guess you need to figure out how bad you want to spends some alone time w/ your hunny,  Seems to me he really wanted to w/ you.

 

Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:23 PM
What's the Y? I live in a town of 11,000 people lol so there isn't much here.

Quoting littlesippycup:

I would contact your local HS guidance counselor and tell her to have some responsible teens interested in babysitting to give you a call. Someone on here said you can contact the Y also. All those teens have passed background checks. Just a better way than an ad in the newspaper.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:24 PM
I would tell her to come to you and use your washing machine. You won't enjoy yourself if you worry about dd and ds the whole time. For the record I understand. My kids are 2 and 3 and never been with a babysitter who wasn't family (usually my mom). We live over 1000 miles from home so we get a date night maybe once a year (if that).
Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:25 PM
LOL. Well...on the bright side, I'd be single so I wouldn't have to worry about this shit anymore.

Quoting Anonymous:

 you keep on doing shit like this & next time we can hear a post from you how he is cheating on you.


Quoting Devious333:

Yeah, I do, but I never will unfortunately. And my kids are well cared for, but thanks anyway (:


Quoting Anonymous:


 You need to fucking relax!!    You are to much, I feel sorry for your kids.   If she isnt coming to your home then I guess you need to figure out how bad you want to spends some alone time w/ your hunny,  Seems to me he really wanted to w/ you.


 

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Bknotnobody
by Gold Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:26 PM
This.

I think you're overreacting. Tell mil your washer works just fine.

Either way you're hurting your marriage.

Suck it up buttercup and find a sitter!


Quoting Anonymous:

I think you need to get to work to find a babysitter. relationships require dedication and work. you can't just tell dh no and expect to have a strong marriage.
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