Anyway. I told dh I wanted his mom to come over here, mostly because of dd, but ds is allergic to something in their house. Everytime he goes over there his eyes get red and puffy, he sneezes, coughs, etc. He has allergies anyway but he's never like that at home. We go over to their house for holidays and when we eat dinner with them. They rarely come to our house.
MIL won't put her dog in her room while dd is there because her dog retaliates by shitting or pissing somewhere. I don't go anywhere or do anything unless dh is at home with the kids or we all go together...and hiring a babysitter isn't an option because I don't know anyone here and I don't like people who aren't family watching my kids. MIL told dh today that she would like it if the kids went to their house tomorrow so she could do laundry...so idk if she'll come over to watch them. I told dh just to go the movie with his dad or something. I could tell he was kind of frustrated when I said that but I don't want dd getting hurt.
How would you feel about this? And I don't think I'm overreacting...I don't like the idea of my 9 month old choking, falling down stairs or being mauled by a dog, knowing these possibilities, would you feel the same?
Eta: Lol some of you think I'm making up excuses, yet a lot of women on here are SAHMs because they don't trust daycares or anyone to watch their kids. How am I any different than you?
Quoting mem82:LOL Makes you wonder just a little bit how your hubby made it to adulthoold.
Quoting Devious333:
Their house is so cluttered...and a gate won't work at the top of their stairs because of the way they put the wall in. There wasn't a wall there, it was a railing so a small kid could have easily fallen through it/under it, but I told them that I wouldn't leave ds in their care until they made it so he couldn't fall down the stairs...the wall dh's dad built is too far back for a gate. Lol their house really is not child proof.
Quoting mem82:Can you go over and kid proof for them? Bring a gate and run the sweeper really quick?
It sounds to me that you're going to find something wrong with any option. You don't trust your MIL to watch your kids, if you did, you'd know she'd keep them safe despite having a non baby-proofed house. (Good supervision is far better than baby proofing.) I think you have bigger issues going on than a babysitter/movie problem.
We have no family where we live...zero...so we've had to decide if friends or coworkers were trustworthy babysitters. We don't go out much because we don't want to take advantage of our friends, but we do occasionally. Every marriage needs time together, WITHOUT the kids. A healthy life does not solely revolve around your children. You need to take care of yourself to be of use to them, you need to take care of your marriage (because a marriage in trouble is anything but stable) and you need to take care of what your kids need (not always everything they want.)
Good luck, I hope better options come around for you.
Quoting Jenn820:It sounds to me that you're going to find something wrong with any option. You don't trust your MIL to watch your kids, if you did, you'd know she'd keep them safe despite having a non baby-proofed house. (Good supervision is far better than baby proofing.) I think you have bigger issues going on than a babysitter/movie problem.
We have no family where we live...zero...so we've had to decide if friends or coworkers were trustworthy babysitters. We don't go out much because we don't want to take advantage of our friends, but we do occasionally. Every marriage needs time together, WITHOUT the kids. A healthy life does not solely revolve around your children. You need to take care of yourself to be of use to them, you need to take care of your marriage (because a marriage in trouble is anything but stable) and you need to take care of what your kids need (not always everything they want.)
Good luck, I hope better options come around for you.
Quoting Devious333:
I don't know anyone where I live. It wouldn't be smart to put an ad in the paper and ask someone. I don't see why she can't come over for 3 hours. Their house isn't kid proof, like I said.
Quoting Anonymous:
No, I think you are overreacting. How bad do you want some alone time with your husband? You don't like your family option, yet you don't want to use someone who's not family....
Quoting Anonymous:
3+ hours you mean? You do realize the mo e is 2.46 hours long + at least 15 minutes of previews, so you would be gone longer then 3 hours. By the way its a good movie, I think you would be ok to leave your dd alone with grandma for a few hours.
Quoting Devious333:
I don't know anyone where I live. It wouldn't be smart to put an ad in the paper and ask someone. I don't see why she can't come over for 3 hours. Their house isn't kid proof, like I said.
Quoting Anonymous:
No, I think you are overreacting. How bad do you want some alone time with your husband? You don't like your family option, yet you don't want to use someone who's not family....
Sorry I left to cook dinner. It's the YMCA, it's a place for families, pools, recreational activities. That sorta thing. They offer programs in the community. You could also try the Boys and Girls Club if you have one of those. When we move, I'm going to use one of these methods to find a sitter.
Quoting Devious333:
What's the Y? I live in a town of 11,000 people lol so there isn't much here.
Quoting littlesippycup:I would contact your local HS guidance counselor and tell her to have some responsible teens interested in babysitting to give you a call. Someone on here said you can contact the Y also. All those teens have passed background checks. Just a better way than an ad in the newspaper.
the title is about going to a movie then you write long ass book has nothing to do with going to the movie. Lame
Quoting Devious333:
Huh? No. Over my kids safety.
Quoting thetrollcat:over seeing a MOVIE????
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Quoting Devious333:
Sure, I'll put the ad on craigslist right away :)
Quoting Anonymous:
I think you need to get to work to find a babysitter. relationships require dedication and work. you can't just tell dh no and expect to have a strong marriage.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?
- Devious333
on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:45 PM