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Dh wants to go to a movie tomorrow

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We both want to see The Hobbit, we haven't been on a date together since May of last year, but I don't like leaving dd (or even ds, really) at dh's parents house. Dd is 9 months, is crawling and will find stuff to put in her mouth. Their house isn't child proof, they don't have a gate for their stairs, she can get into the kitchen and pick stuff off the floor (they don't sweep often), and when we were over there a couple weeks ago, their little dog growled and snapped at dd over food on the floor (he's not a kid dog and even growls at ds), scratched/bruised her face. So when we were over there on New Years Eve, I didn't get to hang out and talk to adults...I was stuck making sure dd didn't get bit by the dog or pick something off the floor because my nieces are pigs and leave food and stuff all over the place. Dh and everyone was playing a board game and, as usual, I didn't get to participate...I tried but I kept having to stop dd from going into the kitchen or from going near the dog.

Anyway. I told dh I wanted his mom to come over here, mostly because of dd, but ds is allergic to something in their house. Everytime he goes over there his eyes get red and puffy, he sneezes, coughs, etc. He has allergies anyway but he's never like that at home. We go over to their house for holidays and when we eat dinner with them. They rarely come to our house.

MIL won't put her dog in her room while dd is there because her dog retaliates by shitting or pissing somewhere. I don't go anywhere or do anything unless dh is at home with the kids or we all go together...and hiring a babysitter isn't an option because I don't know anyone here and I don't like people who aren't family watching my kids. MIL told dh today that she would like it if the kids went to their house tomorrow so she could do laundry...so idk if she'll come over to watch them. I told dh just to go the movie with his dad or something. I could tell he was kind of frustrated when I said that but I don't want dd getting hurt.

How would you feel about this? And I don't think I'm overreacting...I don't like the idea of my 9 month old choking, falling down stairs or being mauled by a dog, knowing these possibilities, would you feel the same?

Eta: Lol some of you think I'm making up excuses, yet a lot of women on here are SAHMs because they don't trust daycares or anyone to watch their kids. How am I any different than you?
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by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:45 PM
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Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:06 PM
Ah...that's what I thought. Yeah, nothing like that here. We don't even have an indoor pool. They consider a big hole in the ground that they fill with water a pool. In the summertime, of course.

Quoting littlesippycup:

Sorry I left to cook dinner. It's the YMCA, it's a place for families, pools, recreational activities. That sorta thing. They offer programs in the community. You could also try the Boys and Girls Club if you have one of those. When we move, I'm going to use one of these methods to find a sitter.

Quoting Devious333:

What's the Y? I live in a town of 11,000 people lol so there isn't much here.



Quoting littlesippycup:

I would contact your local HS guidance counselor and tell her to have some responsible teens interested in babysitting to give you a call. Someone on here said you can contact the Y also. All those teens have passed background checks. Just a better way than an ad in the newspaper.


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Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:07 PM
Okay.

Quoting thetrollcat:

the title is about going to a movie then you write long ass book has nothing to do with going to the movie. Lame

Quoting Devious333:

Huh? No. Over my kids safety.



Quoting thetrollcat:

over seeing a MOVIE????


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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:07 PM

LOL try the High School. 

Quoting Devious333:

Ah...that's what I thought. Yeah, nothing like that here. We don't even have an indoor pool. They consider a big hole in the ground that they fill with water a pool. In the summertime, of course.

Quoting littlesippycup:

Sorry I left to cook dinner. It's the YMCA, it's a place for families, pools, recreational activities. That sorta thing. They offer programs in the community. You could also try the Boys and Girls Club if you have one of those. When we move, I'm going to use one of these methods to find a sitter.

Quoting Devious333:

What's the Y? I live in a town of 11,000 people lol so there isn't much here.



Quoting littlesippycup:

I would contact your local HS guidance counselor and tell her to have some responsible teens interested in babysitting to give you a call. Someone on here said you can contact the Y also. All those teens have passed background checks. Just a better way than an ad in the newspaper.



Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:08 PM
Lol this town is so small there isn't even a CL for it. The closest is a city 2 hours away.

Quoting LoveMyLos:

Ive used cl numerous times. Not for last minute things, but i have found two oncall sitters, and one turned into a good friend.



Quoting Devious333:

Sure, I'll put the ad on craigslist right away :)





Quoting Anonymous:

I think you need to get to work to find a babysitter. relationships require dedication and work. you can't just tell dh no and expect to have a strong marriage.
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Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:08 PM
Yeah, eventually I will. Thanks.

Quoting littlesippycup:

LOL try the High School. 

Quoting Devious333:

Ah...that's what I thought. Yeah, nothing like that here. We don't even have an indoor pool. They consider a big hole in the ground that they fill with water a pool. In the summertime, of course.



Quoting littlesippycup:

Sorry I left to cook dinner. It's the YMCA, it's a place for families, pools, recreational activities. That sorta thing. They offer programs in the community. You could also try the Boys and Girls Club if you have one of those. When we move, I'm going to use one of these methods to find a sitter.

Quoting Devious333:

What's the Y? I live in a town of 11,000 people lol so there isn't much here.





Quoting littlesippycup:

I would contact your local HS guidance counselor and tell her to have some responsible teens interested in babysitting to give you a call. Someone on here said you can contact the Y also. All those teens have passed background checks. Just a better way than an ad in the newspaper.



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LoveMyLos
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:10 PM
Well you just have an excuse for everything......why bother posting?

Quoting Devious333:

Lol this town is so small there isn't even a CL for it. The closest is a city 2 hours away.



Quoting LoveMyLos:

Ive used cl numerous times. Not for last minute things, but i have found two oncall sitters, and one turned into a good friend.





Quoting Devious333:

Sure, I'll put the ad on craigslist right away :)







Quoting Anonymous:

I think you need to get to work to find a babysitter. relationships require dedication and work. you can't just tell dh no and expect to have a strong marriage.
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Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:11 PM
Omg...I'm not making excuses. I was JUST SAYING...my town is SMALL. Good grief. Have a good night.

Quoting LoveMyLos:

Well you just have an excuse for everything......why bother posting?



Quoting Devious333:

Lol this town is so small there isn't even a CL for it. The closest is a city 2 hours away.





Quoting LoveMyLos:

Ive used cl numerous times. Not for last minute things, but i have found two oncall sitters, and one turned into a good friend.







Quoting Devious333:

Sure, I'll put the ad on craigslist right away :)









Quoting Anonymous:

I think you need to get to work to find a babysitter. relationships require dedication and work. you can't just tell dh no and expect to have a strong marriage.
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Kerannmer
by Gold Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:14 PM

NO WAY I would ever use CL to find a babysitter...but I have taken the suggestions of hs students from my daughter's trusted teachers. We have 2 amazing babysitters now!

Devious333
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:16 PM
Lol I don't have a CL for my town anyway. I wouldn't use it either. When I get to know people here and when dd is older, the hs will be a place I look into.

Quoting Kerannmer:

NO WAY I would ever use CL to find a babysitter...but I have taken the suggestions of hs students from my daughter's trusted teachers. We have 2 amazing babysitters now!

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:18 PM
I am the same way. My mil offered to watch ds for my bff's wedding (i was moh) when ds was 6weeks old. I asked mil if she could watch him at our home. She has a loud, obnoxious dog and i didn't feel comfortable with ds there without me. She refused. Ds went to the wedding with us.
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