S/O of leaving the group post with eta
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What is some advice you would give to moms on here who are picked on? This is not necessarily just for moms who may have asked for support and advice but any mom on here.
Eta: Do comments ever cross the line, in your opinion? If so, what are some things that shouldn't be tolerated, even in here?
Quoting GypsyMom2012:My mom always told me the same thing... I used to get bullied in jr high and I tried very hard to ignore it and not draw attention to myself. That didn't stop bullies. The baseball to their knees, arms and heads did. Bullies will do what they do to whomever they can do it to. It makes them feel stronger, superior, as though they are worth something to make you feel so bad.
Ignoring a problem and hoping it will go away is not the answer. It never has been, it never will be. Taking a proactive step to cut a bully off at the pass, before shit gets out of hand is the key. Each bully is different so the steps to take are different.
Quoting Anonymous:
Ignore it. The more you let them know it bothers them, the more they'll do it.
Thanks. Since I changed my S/N twice no one bothers me. I just don't post any family pics and keep a lot private. Before I was very open.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting AliKatAK47:
I posted an entire post telling why I cancelled my 1st account. PMs included
Kill yourself you stupid whore
I hope I find you so I can kill you myself - This person actually TRIED to do just that.
I hope your BF murders your ass
and I hope your kids grow up and die on death row.
Most of the people here AGREED with the PMs and added their own stuff.
Quoting T-HoneyLuv:
I do think that it takes a special kind of fermenting Cunt to tell someone to kill themself. I would NEVER say that to anyone.
Wow...that is messed up. It is scary to think that these are moms raising children. I am sorry this happened to you.
Stuff that I will not talk about in this group. You can PM me I guess if you really want to know.
Quoting mattiehatter:0.O What the fuck was that about?
Quoting AliKatAK47:I posted an entire post telling why I cancelled my 1st account. PMs included
Kill yourself you stupid whore
I hope I find you so I can kill you myself - This person actually TRIED to do just that.
I hope your BF murders your ass
and I hope your kids grow up and die on death row.
Most of the people here AGREED with the PMs and added their own stuff.
Quoting T-HoneyLuv:
I do think that it takes a special kind of fermenting Cunt to tell someone to kill themself. I would NEVER say that to anyone.
As for me, ignoring my bullies always worked, cause then they showed how childish they were when trying to get a rise out of me. One idiot even dumped her carton of milk on me in front of her friends, expecting them to side with her. They didn't and she ended up having to find a new group of friends.
Quoting GypsyMom2012:My mom always told me the same thing... I used to get bullied in jr high and I tried very hard to ignore it and not draw attention to myself. That didn't stop bullies. The baseball to their knees, arms and heads did. Bullies will do what they do to whomever they can do it to. It makes them feel stronger, superior, as though they are worth something to make you feel so bad.
Ignoring a problem and hoping it will go away is not the answer. It never has been, it never will be. Taking a proactive step to cut a bully off at the pass, before shit gets out of hand is the key. Each bully is different so the steps to take are different.
Quoting Anonymous:
Ignore it. The more you let them know it bothers them, the more they'll do it.
Quoting AliKatAK47:
Thanks. Since I changed my S/N twice no one bothers me. I just don't post any family pics and keep a lot private. Before I was very open.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting AliKatAK47:
I posted an entire post telling why I cancelled my 1st account. PMs included
Kill yourself you stupid whore
I hope I find you so I can kill you myself - This person actually TRIED to do just that.
I hope your BF murders your ass
and I hope your kids grow up and die on death row.
Most of the people here AGREED with the PMs and added their own stuff.
Quoting T-HoneyLuv:
I do think that it takes a special kind of fermenting Cunt to tell someone to kill themself. I would NEVER say that to anyone.
Wow...that is messed up. It is scary to think that these are moms raising children. I am sorry this happened to you.
You are welcome.
I am glad you are not bothered anymore. I have to say no matter what you said, you didn't deserve any of that(sure you know it). I am just sorry you dealt with all that.
ADVICE: Take all assholes with grain of salt. never argue something you cannot back up with proof, never let this leak ito your ACTUAL life, and PLEASE, no crying at home while angry typing! LOL
What should NEVER be okay , even on here..... any rude/ mean comment about a child, anything insulting someone with a handicap of any sort, the words : cunt, and twat in insulting manners, calling anyone a retard, and religious full out bashing 9 or any beliefs)
I am happy I don't see any of those people around at all anymore.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting AliKatAK47:
Thanks. Since I changed my S/N twice no one bothers me. I just don't post any family pics and keep a lot private. Before I was very open.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting AliKatAK47:
I posted an entire post telling why I cancelled my 1st account. PMs included
Kill yourself you stupid whore
I hope I find you so I can kill you myself - This person actually TRIED to do just that.
I hope your BF murders your ass
and I hope your kids grow up and die on death row.
Most of the people here AGREED with the PMs and added their own stuff.
Quoting T-HoneyLuv:
I do think that it takes a special kind of fermenting Cunt to tell someone to kill themself. I would NEVER say that to anyone.
Wow...that is messed up. It is scary to think that these are moms raising children. I am sorry this happened to you.
You are welcome.
I am glad you are not bothered anymore. I have to say no matter what you said, you didn't deserve any of that(sure you know it). I am just sorry you dealt with all that.
2. Get a thicker hide.
3. Don't put it out there if you can't handle the backlash.
4. Don't post every detail of your life.
5. Find a different group if you are looking for real advice.
Sorry bout the book I wrote, Anon opened a can, and I feel the need to serve it up.
Did you grow up in a nice-ish area where kids are not expected to experience real life till they are much older? I didn't get that luxury, and I appologise if I am wrong about your personal upbringing.... I ONLY ever hear that ignoring bullies works from people who grew up in middle class neighborhoods, to upper class areas. No one where I come from gets away with being bullied by "Ignoring it" Im glad that worked for you, but in the real world, If you don't earn your respect, you don't get respect. It is as simple as that.
I was a very small teenager till I was about 15. At 13, I was pushed around and beat up repeatedly by girls who were younger but bigger than myself. I am talking about groups of 4-8 girls, mostly black or Mexican, separately. I was in 8th grade and the teachers, security staff, other kids, no one would help me... I was 4 feet tall. My 8 yr old dd is 4'5".
At 14, I only grew about an inch so I was very small still. 9th grade came and here comes a new set of girls looking to prove themselves. I was jumped on a fairly consistant basis, about once a day, up to 5 times a week. Are you telling me I should have just kept ignoring this? I had told everyone I could... I even called the police and, guess what... Nothing. I went to the hospital more times that year than I have my entire life outside of jr high.
By the second semester of my last year in jr high, I had enough. No one was going to help me so I was going to have to help myself. Avert your eyes if you are too sensitive to deal with reality but here is what happened. Baseball season was starting up. My little brother, who was quite a bit bigger than I was (Still is to this day) and he had gotten new baseball gear from his dad. I asked him if I could borrow or have his old stuff since it was more soft-ball-esq. I started taking this to school, didn't matter that I wasn't in softball, no-one at my school knew that. I took my bag to the bathroom one day, that same group of girls came after me... AGAIN! I was in the stall at the time, waiting. I took the bat out, unlocked the stall door, kicked it out and I started hitting anything that was not running away. Up till this point, I had been stabbed 7 times... only once by a pencil and once by a push pin... 5 times, I have had a knife shoved into my flesh. Survival of the fittest bitches. I broke knee caps, busted more than a few ligaments, shattered one girls elbow joint, helped another lose a front tooth, broke 3 noses (could have been more but we never got a total count of how many girls were in the bathroom) and I put my bat down once it was just me and the bully leader... She truly was a pure bully. She didn't need to have an audience like most bullies. She was just mean. I screamed and ran at her, then punched her in the mouth. She hit back too. I got a black eye, split lip, more scratches than I knew were possible and I lost a more than a few chunks of hair. But in the end. I had earned her respect, (rumors state that I also earned her fear but there was no proof of that)
I let her know I didn't want anything to do with her or her friends ever again. I said I never did. I want to just walk my way and she can walk hers but if she came after me again, I would not put my bat down, I would use it till her head was mush. (I was so scared at that point because I had put up with so much fear and pain, I didn't know if I could stop again) I am very cautious about the individuals I interact with. I refuse to "throw the first punch" so to speak. But... I have taken with me what I learned at my jr high. It is all good to try and hope the problem resolves itself but when you are looking at people who go for blood at the first sign of weakness, you had better be ready to fight for yourself.
Yes, you self-righteous, high and mighty Anonymous bitch, Violence does fix the problem and it is more often than not, THE EXACT ANSWER NECESSARY TO FIX THAT PROBLEM.
Violence is not always the answer but originally, my post stated that you have to cut the bully off before it gets out of hand. You misinterpreted it as fight!!!! I fight in many different ways because I am very good at it. I do not get messed with nearly so much, and never by people who don't like me. I have not gotten into a fight since I was 19 years old. I don't have to. I treat people the way I want to be treated, always have. Being passive in this world is a huge indication of "I am weak". I like to sit back and watch. There are bullies everywhere. Here on CM, at work, schools, in the malls, everywhere. Ignoring it might work for you when your around your cute little friends from middle school but get around real bullies, and tell me how that works out for you.
Quoting Anonymous:
Whelp, so it didn't work for YOU, but stooping to their level and introducing violence to the mix worked for you. I could tell you that USING VIOLENCE TO FIX A PROBLEM IS NEVER THE ANSWER, but according to you it is, so I highly doubt you'd listen.
As for me, ignoring my bullies always worked, cause then they showed how childish they were when trying to get a rise out of me. One idiot even dumped her carton of milk on me in front of her friends, expecting them to side with her. They didn't and she ended up having to find a new group of friends.
Quoting GypsyMom2012:My mom always told me the same thing... I used to get bullied in jr high and I tried very hard to ignore it and not draw attention to myself. That didn't stop bullies. The baseball to their knees, arms and heads did. Bullies will do what they do to whomever they can do it to. It makes them feel stronger, superior, as though they are worth something to make you feel so bad.
Ignoring a problem and hoping it will go away is not the answer. It never has been, it never will be. Taking a proactive step to cut a bully off at the pass, before shit gets out of hand is the key. Each bully is different so the steps to take are different.
Quoting Anonymous:
Ignore it. The more you let them know it bothers them, the more they'll do it.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"