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I want to get my tubes tied and he says no

Anonymous
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I'm done having kids, we decided on three and that's what we have. Our youngest is 3 and I'm done with the toddler stage and ready for the next chapter in our lives and for me that means permanent birth control like getting my tubes tied or essure. My husband thinks differently. He thinks we may want another child down the road and we will regret it but I know I won't. I love my kids to death but 3 is enough, I can't handle anymore.

I hate to go behind his back and get it done when he's out of town but I know I'm done having kids.



Let me clarify what I mean when I say getting it done behind his back. He works out of town for 6 weeks at a time. I'd secretly set up the procedure for a time when he's at work and I'd tell him either the night before or the day of when it would be too late for him to come home.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:45 AM
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I'd do it. 

peanutsmommy1
by Ruby Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:46 AM
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Many doctors will not do it without a spouses agreement on the procedure
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:46 AM

hes gonna have to be gone for atleast 2 weeks for him to not notice.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:47 AM
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It's your body, I'd say do it. He can throw his fit but ultimately the decision to have another child is both of your decision and if you know you are done he needs to respect that.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:48 AM
He goes out of town for 6 weeks at a time.

Quoting Anonymous:

hes gonna have to be gone for atleast 2 weeks for him to not notice.

Lorissa11
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:48 AM
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If you have the least shred of second thoughts I would start with and IUD.

AllofFive19
by Ruby Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:48 AM

Mine didn't even ask.

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

Many doctors will not do it without a spouses agreement on the procedure


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:48 AM
Will he have to go with me or can I just say we are separated? I haven't really discussed things with my on/gyn yet.

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

Many doctors will not do it without a spouses agreement on the procedure
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:49 AM
No I'm 100% done. 3 is all I can handle.

Quoting Lorissa11:

If you have the least shred of second thoughts I would start with and IUD.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 6, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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 Troll fail

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