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The ex wives that never remarry get this benefit???!!!!!

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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 "If you divorce after at least 10 years of marriage and don't remarry, you can collect retirement benefits on your former spouse's Social Security record if you are at least age 62 and if your former spouse is entitled to or receiving benefits. This is true whether your ex remarries or not."

 

http://www.firstwivesworld.com/resources/resource-articles/social-security-women-and-divorce

 

I didn't know exes could have so much power. I'm dh's 2nd wife and as far as I know, his ex has yet to remarry. So for an example 20 years or more goes by, dh dies. I can't collect ss benefits because his ex wife who was married to him 12 years deserves it more than me?? OMG!

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:49 PM
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littlecolton07
by Rebecca on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:50 PM

I have heard that. I think it's stupid.

wkukid
by Ocean Wave on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:50 PM

Yes it's true. My mother gets money from her ex.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:51 PM

Your benefits are not tied to whether or not she collects. It does not lower yours or anything.

louzannalady
by Gold Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:53 PM
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Good it protects first wives who get dumped.
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Luna091306
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:54 PM

 Well shit.....the same goes for me I guess. They separated right before the 10 year mark but by the time the divorce was finalized they had been legally married for 11 years. :/ Eh, I'm betting she remarries eventually. She already "married" (in a church but not legally) another guy but that only lasted a year or so.

Luna091306
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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 So what if it was the wife that did the dumping? Why do people always assume it's the man's fault when a marriage ends???

Quoting louzannalady:

Good it protects first wives who get dumped.

 

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Bonita131
by Platinum Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:55 PM

Its true they can claim it, but I believe, not entirely positive, SS benefits would go to the present surviving spouse, before it would go to an ex spouse.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:56 PM
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Well, that's the way it is. Another reason divorce is a bad idea. Why wouldn't she deserve it? She was just as much his wife then as you are now.

beerebelly
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:57 PM

 I have heard that also. No clue how it works though.

louzannalady
by Gold Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 6:58 PM
Lol! True. Just projecting....

Quoting Luna091306:

 So what if it was the wife that did the dumping? Why do people always assume it's the man's fault when a marriage ends???


Quoting louzannalady:

Good it protects first wives who get dumped.

 

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