My husband got a call tonight at 2am from his exgirlfriend, whose my 5 year old sons birthmother, I adopted my stepson. She told him that he needed to come over to her house right away, that it was an emergency. She was hysterical and we were worried that she was hurt or something, so he goes over to her house, she lives in the same town, and she's acting really weird, he said she kept itching her arms, she wasn't making any sense, she kept saying that she wanted him to make it better, she hands him this wad of money and tells him to buy Tate something for his birthday, which was a week ago. She came to his party with her mom but acted strange, she was really sweaty and pale, and her boyfriend came to pick her up after five minutes. Her mom said she was just sick. There was a bunch of people in her house, he asked her where her mom was (she lives with her mom) and she said she was out of town. He saw some kind of glass pipe on the table but it was really dark and crowded so he couldn't tell if it was a pipe or a bong. He kicked everyone out and told her to go to bed, she went in and passed out on her bed where her boyfriend was already sleeping, and he left and came home.
She used to use a while ago but stopped, it looks like she might be using again. He's going to go over tomorrow when she's in a better state and see if she wants the money back or what. Next time we talk to her mother he's going to talk to her about it, she's going to be pissed, but whatever. I'm really sad, she seemed like she was finally getting her life back in order. I guess not.
Update:
My husband and his ex's boyfriend work at the same place. Today the guy just comes up to his station and starts screaming and cursing at him, telling him he has no business coming over to his house and talking to his girl and clearing out his party and taking his money. The supervisor was getting pissed so my husband told him he'd take care of it and they went out back, Ethan told him to shut up for a minute and listen, he calmly told him that first off, it wasn't his house, it was his girlfriends moms house, he didn't just come over there to talk to her, Sally called him and told him to get over there because it was an emergency, he had to clear out the party because he was passed out in the back not doing anything so he had to come do his job, and she gave him the money, it's her money, not his, so unless she says she wants it back, it's Tate's money so he can either shut it or go to the police and whine about how his meth party got shut down. Guy stomps off like a toddler and they both go back to work. He's lucky that his uncle owns the place or there's no way that guy would even have a job right now.
After work he went back over, by now everyone's sobered up, and asked Sally if she wants the money back, she said no, to give it to Tate, her boyfriend whined for a minute but she told him to shut up and stay out of it and to quit harassing my husband. He asked her what happened last night and what she plans on doing about it, she said that its just a casual thing, its not like shes doing it all the time, and to stay out of it, she can do whatever she wants. He dropped it for now, we don't know what the next step is from here. We're all 20, she's got her life ahead of her, so hopefully she gets herself together eventually.
She only sees him for like an hour every few months, so he isn't doesn't really notice. He isn't close to her at all. I honestly just feel bad for her, yes it was her choice, but she had a really horrible life and sometimes kids just grow up to do what they were raised to do, she isn't happy with her life and sees this as an escape from it and she doesn't know any different.
Quoting Anonymous:
Oh thank goodnesss.
I feel bad for her but only for the sake of the child. She does this to herself. Only she can make the choice to use or to stop. Its a shame. I feel sorry for the child. Even though you may be a great mom to him, it may still hurt him that his bio mom is like this.
Quoting LucyHarper:No, she terminated her rights, she doesn't have any rights to him. She has to get our permission and we don't let her see him alone or at her house.
Quoting Anonymous:
She doesn't get the kid at all does she?
I feel like he's probably going to be a problem tomorrow. My husband works at the same place as him and he's going to be pissed when he finds out my husband was at their house and broke it up.
Quoting Sassy762:Sad....very sad
Get rid of the BF.....problem solved...sort of
Quoting LucyHarper:Maybe, maybe not. In the past the only times that he's been able to talk her into getting help or stopping something is when she's not with her boyfriend, who sees my husband helping as a threat, freaks out, and convinces her to do the opposite of everything he says. Rehab only works if they actually want to be rehabilitated, she's 20 years old, an adult, so he can't really make her do much.
Quoting Sassy762:WOW....she sounds like she need an intervention. Can DH talk her into going into rehab??
Quoting LucyHarper:Maybe, maybe not. In the past the only times that he's been able to talk her into getting help or stopping something is when she's not with her boyfriend, who sees my husband helping as a threat, freaks out, and convinces her to do the opposite of everything he says. Rehab only works if they actually want to be rehabilitated, she's 20 years old, an adult, so he can't really make her do much.
Quoting Sassy762:WOW....she sounds like she need an intervention. Can DH talk her into going into rehab??
Then his ass should have been awake and taken care of the shit....smdh
Smoke his ass..........not really BUT just get rid of him
Quoting LucyHarper:I feel like he's probably going to be a problem tomorrow. My husband works at the same place as him and he's going to be pissed when he finds out my husband was at their house and broke it up.
Quoting Sassy762:Sad....very sad
Get rid of the BF.....problem solved...sort of
Quoting LucyHarper:Maybe, maybe not. In the past the only times that he's been able to talk her into getting help or stopping something is when she's not with her boyfriend, who sees my husband helping as a threat, freaks out, and convinces her to do the opposite of everything he says. Rehab only works if they actually want to be rehabilitated, she's 20 years old, an adult, so he can't really make her do much.
Quoting Sassy762:WOW....she sounds like she need an intervention. Can DH talk her into going into rehab??
Quoting LucyHarper:We don't know if she was just really trash drunk and it was someone elses or what, but he'll find out tomorrow.
Quoting Anonymous:
Well someone needs rehab.
After tonight, I wouldn't be just thinking she's on shit again, I'd say its safe to say you know for fact she is. Disgusting and sad.
She had a horrible life and was honestly never taught drugs were bad, yes the school said it, but her family and friends said otherwise and she saw them as an escape from unhappiness. She needs serious help and she isn't really someone I can just cut off.
Quoting neaka123:
U r a Good woman to deal with tha drama cut her off u have a husband and child to think bout it could get ugly what if she had set him up when ppl r on drugs they will do any thing stop feeling sorry who forced her to take drugs we r all taught that drugs r bad but some ppl think they can try it and dont get addicted tell her she needs rehad to me yo husband is running straight intp her trap she decided to do them so she needs to b the one to go get it
Yes, my husband was 15 too.
Quoting Anonymous:
What? So she had the kid when she was only 15??? Yikes!
Quoting LucyHarper:Maybe, maybe not. In the past the only times that he's been able to talk her into getting help or stopping something is when she's not with her boyfriend, who sees my husband helping as a threat, freaks out, and convinces her to do the opposite of everything he says. Rehab only works if they actually want to be rehabilitated, she's 20 years old, an adult, so he can't really make her do much.
Quoting Sassy762:WOW....she sounds like she need an intervention. Can DH talk her into going into rehab??
hmm scratching at the arms? yep sounds like speed to me. my uncle woke my gma up one night saying there were bugs crawling out of his skin and couldnt she see it? he was on meth
what to do when the special needs kid is the bully?
Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse?
- LucyHarper
on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:09 AM