DH and I have different opinions on this important topic.
DH and I have started to think about what would happen to our kids if something happened to both he and I. We don't have any sort of will or anything yet, mostly because we are having a difference of opinion as to who should get the kids.
He wants his mom. While I like her, and think she's great, she's not who I want raising my children. DH was in daycare until he was too old to go, then he stayed home by himself. His mom was constantly working, she chose a career over parenting. His dad traveled and was gone for months at a time (his parents divorced when his younger sister graduated high school). She is a co-manager for Walmart, and works 60+ hours a week. I dont want that life for my children, seeing as how I've made sacrifices to be able to stay home and be with them, attend their school activities, and so on. Plus she has some values and parenting skills that I'm not fond of.
The girls have an honorary aunt in their life (i'm an only child, and I've been best friends with this girl since we were in our early teens). She's been their since the day they were born, and has been a better aunt to them than DH's sister. She loves them to death, and has told me she would take them in a heart beat if anything happened. She has been in a relationship with the same guy for seven years (she is 24 years old, DH and I are 26), and they are talking about getting married. I love him, as well, and so do the kids. I think she and her boyfriend would be a great choice for the kids, but DH doens't want it. He wants family to take the responsiblity, and his mom is the only person in either of our families that we'd be comfortable with, seeing as how I'm not close to my family, my parents are abusive, and his family is all drug addicts living across the country.
I just don't know what to do, and it makes me uneasy to not have a plan, because anything could happen.