Last week I was cleaning up and in MY bed I found a sock. it was not a sock of mine or my childrens and so I became very nervous, wondering if Dh has been cheating. I questioned him, went thru his phone and emails and found NO evidence. Now i dont belive Dh would ever cheat, but a sock that isnt mine? it had me a little paranoid. I have a 16 yr old DS a 12 yr old DD and a 10 yr old DS. and DD doesn NOT wear these kind of socks...
Well I decided it was time to confront Dh, he came home and I showed him the sock in our bed, and it was obvious by his face that it was not him...after some major talking we decided the next logical place to turn would be DS 16... so I checked his text last night while he was sleeping and what do you know.... a text from a girl saying how dirty it was that they HAD SEX! in his parents (our ) bed!! Dh stayed home today and we plan on having a very serious conversation about this when he gets home! - and seriously he has his own room! why the hell would he use ours? thats just gross!!
After we talk these will be his punishments-
a list of chores Dh and I have been working on all day created especially for his enjoyment
we have "safe sex" classes here at the community center which he WILL attend (after we talk of course)
no car for a week
he is to buy us new sheets- that I pick out and trust me they wont be cheap!
a MUCH tighter schedual that will allow for not so much freedom until we feel he can be trusted again
and we had not thought about the girl- so after we get a bit more info on her we will decide how to handle that aspect of it
UPDATE- We sat down and talked about how being in our room without permission was not acceptable, and he was like "um, ok and your point? I dont go in there" well this pissed me off! So I threw the sock at him and said "This is my damn point" He was started to deny it but I think he knew better, he came clean and apologized.
He said the girl was on BC and that he used protection. She is apparently 17 and they go to school together. they are not together it was a "one time thing". We had the safe sex talk and let him know what his punishments were. He accepted them all fairly well except for the safe sex class...He asked if we could drop that one as he proved himself safe when he asked if she was on BC and used protection anyway. This is apparently not his first time...big shock- I thought he was a virgin... :( .. We agreed to that. We decided that since the girl was 17 we would not call her parents.
The sock is still on the living room floor AND I AM NOT TOUCHING IT!!!