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Proud black woman.....*ETA*

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So we are in the store and my 3 year old is always asking "what's that?" He says it to people or toys....whatever.





There was a black lady beside us and my son said "what's that?" Apparently she was offended cause she looks at him and says "I am a proud black woman" I said that's nice and walked off








I mean he was three.....


***she wasn't nice when she said it and he meant to say who not what but that's just how he says it right now.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 7, 2013 at 6:29 PM
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nelliesmommy
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:16 PM

lol, that made me laugh my ass off.

Wydowness
by Kusabi on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:17 PM


Quoting Sparkey6987:

This.



Quoting ErikaRobin:

I'd start saying to your three-year-old "That's not a what, that's a who."

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hismommy2010
by Gold Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:18 PM
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 What the child did/asked wasn't rude, nor was it the childs intent to be rude. If he were older, and understood - then I would say the child may have meant to be rude. For the woman to reply 'proud black woman', isn't exactly rude in it's self. If she said it with a mean/rude tone, then yes - that was rude. The child would see her reply as directed towards him, even if in her mind she meant it towards the mother.

On the other hand, I feel if any person is truly 'proud' of them self, they don't go around announcing it, announcing it is over compensating to make others believe that you are something you truly aren't, while trying to convince your self of the same.

Quoting Pooobaihr:

It is rude. It isn't intentionally rude, but it is rude and shouldn't be overlooked because he is 3. Correct him, apologize and move on.

Quoting ethans_momma06:

 


Quoting lnrmom:

Quoting Anonymous:






Darlin, he was incredibly rude. If a three year old said what is that about me I'd be livid. People are not things. You need to break him of that immediately. "He is three" is not an excuse. Start correcting him. And you should've been correcting him.

Riiiiiight.

Because three year olds totally get that calling someone a what is incorrect. Dude. Their vocabulary is limited as it is. If you get livid over that small thing... lord. You must go around being angry all the time.

It's hardly RUDE. It may not have been correct, it may have been awkward for the parent, but it sure as heck wasn't "rude".

 

ethans_momma06
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:18 PM

If it had been any child with the understanding of the difference between the terms "Who" and "What"- I'd agree.

However, this is a 3 year old. As much as a person is a "who"- they are also a "what". I can understand a person feeling uncomfortable hearing themselves addressed that way (because we as adults carry a lot of unneccesarry baggage and tend to read into shit), but it's not rude. The kid doesn't understand that there is a difference. They simply don't grasp the concept.

I'm not suggesting it should be overlooked, or not corrected. Yes. He should learn. Yes, the mother should correct him, so that he can learn and understand the differences and appropriate term. But all the women getting their panties in a bunch over it? Please.

Yes, the mother should be understanding of the other womans response. She should get why it's awkward, because SHE'S an adult. But let's stop acting like this was SUCH a horrendous faux pas.

Quoting Pooobaihr:

It is rude. It isn't intentionally rude, but it is rude and shouldn't be overlooked because he is 3. Correct him, apologize and move on.

Quoting ethans_momma06:



Quoting lnrmom:

Quoting Anonymous:






Darlin, he was incredibly rude. If a three year old said what is that about me I'd be livid. People are not things. You need to break him of that immediately. "He is three" is not an excuse. Start correcting him. And you should've been correcting him.

Riiiiiight.

Because three year olds totally get that calling someone a what is incorrect. Dude. Their vocabulary is limited as it is. If you get livid over that small thing... lord. You must go around being angry all the time.

It's hardly RUDE. It may not have been correct, it may have been awkward for the parent, but it sure as heck wasn't "rude".


tastelikeyum
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:18 PM
Exactly!!!


Quoting Pooobaihr:

It is rude. It isn't intentionally rude, but it is rude and shouldn't be overlooked because he is 3. Correct him, apologize and move on.



Quoting ethans_momma06:




Quoting lnrmom:

Quoting Anonymous:








Darlin, he was incredibly rude. If a three year old said what is that about me I'd be livid. People are not things. You need to break him of that immediately. "He is three" is not an excuse. Start correcting him. And you should've been correcting him.

Riiiiiight.

Because three year olds totally get that calling someone a what is incorrect. Dude. Their vocabulary is limited as it is. If you get livid over that small thing... lord. You must go around being angry all the time.

It's hardly RUDE. It may not have been correct, it may have been awkward for the parent, but it sure as heck wasn't "rude".


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MizzDeeDee
by Gold Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:18 PM

Some people can't handle things like that.

So... I'm 6 or 7...and I'm getting milk from the cafeteria lady and she asked what kind I wanted and I told her I want "black milk". No idea why I said it. Well, she laughed at me.. and said, " No, honey..I'm black. Your milk isn't. You want chocolate milk."  I  remember being embarassed, though I don't why because I think she was rather jovial about it and I guess it's because she laughed at me maybe..but the point is, she handled that very well. She knew I was a kid, she knew I didn't mean anything by it, and that was that. Some people just aren't as good at dealing with that from children.

Sparkey6987
by Silver Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:20 PM
Some kids do. My older son pointed at people a few times and said "what's that?". I'd just say "not what, who. That's a person. Why don't you say hi, and see what his/her name is?"...I only added the last part if the person heard him.

Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

Umm.. I don't know why your child would even do that?

I have 3 little white boys but they didn't point out other people of race and ask "Whats that?"

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RarelyALazyDay
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:21 PM
When my daughter was really young we were in a store and there was a heavier lady in a wheel chair. We were "in training" of the what you can say and what you never say stage at that time. Well, naturally my daughter says hi to her and then turns to me and asks if she can have a wheel chair. I told her no those aren't you they are to help people. She then yells "yeah, but if I'm fat and ugly can I get one". I died and could have killed her all at the same time. So thankful that stage is over!!
KaylasMama11
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:21 PM

lmaooooooooooooo how pathetic

Quoting AlwaysKISA:

You'd be livid? With a 3 year old? Lmfao!

Quoting lnrmom:

Quoting Anonymous:






Darlin, he was incredibly rude. If a three year old said what is that about me I'd be livid. People are not things. You need to break him of that immediately. "He is three" is not an excuse. Start correcting him. And you should've been correcting him.


tastelikeyum
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 7:23 PM
Really? How do you know she is not proud? What's wrong with having pride with ones self?


Quoting hismommy2010:

 What the child did/asked wasn't rude, nor was it the childs intent to be rude. If he were older, and understood - then I would say the child may have meant to be rude. For the woman to reply 'proud black woman', isn't exactly rude in it's self. If she said it with a mean/rude tone, then yes - that was rude. The child would see her reply as directed towards him, even if in her mind she meant it towards the mother.


On the other hand, I feel if any person is truly 'proud' of them self, they don't go around announcing it, announcing it is over compensating to make others believe that you are something you truly aren't, while trying to convince your self of the same.


Quoting Pooobaihr:

It is rude. It isn't intentionally rude, but it is rude and shouldn't be overlooked because he is 3. Correct him, apologize and move on.


Quoting ethans_momma06:


 



Quoting lnrmom:


Quoting Anonymous:






Darlin, he was incredibly rude. If a three year old said what is that about me I'd be livid. People are not things. You need to break him of that immediately. "He is three" is not an excuse. Start correcting him. And you should've been correcting him.

Riiiiiight.


Because three year olds totally get that calling someone a what is incorrect. Dude. Their vocabulary is limited as it is. If you get livid over that small thing... lord. You must go around being angry all the time.


It's hardly RUDE. It may not have been correct, it may have been awkward for the parent, but it sure as heck wasn't "rude".


 


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