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i want to know why my kids teacher is GONE

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My third graders teacher has been gone constantly this school year. She's in her mid fifties otherwise I'd think she was pregnant or parting or on drugs. She will be gone sometimes a couple weeks at a time and refuses to say why. We've only been back since Wednesday and she's only been there two days!!! I know I'm a stay at home mom but when I worked I didn't get days off like that. I got the teachers phone number from someone I know that is her second cousion and she got mad when I called and the teacher told me not to call! What the hell?! You're a teacher, you're supposed to answer school and he questions. I guess she doesn't care about my kid. The priniipal refuses to tell me why the teacher is out so much. As a parent, I deserve to know. How can I make them tell me?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2013 at 8:54 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 103 on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:07 PM
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Quoting Lyssa0587:

My nephews teacher was like this ( hes in kindergarten). She was an older woman and was always out because of family problems or something. Parents began to complain because the class was behind the other two classes because they always had substiutes and there wasn't any consistency. The teacher ended up just retiring from the pressure( she needed to, she was old). 


My, don't you sound like the compassionate one. Remember what you just said for the day when you're old and "need" to go.

Anytime the class is falling behind because of a teacher, she needs to go. Compassion isn't going to fix a year's worth of ruined education for those kids. I hope when I get to that point I'll be smart enough and compassionate enough not to screw others over and recognize that I am harming, not helping, the very people who depend on me.

Like I said. Aren't you the compassionate one.

Yeah, I also don't feel sorry for drunk drivers that kill people even if they are drunk because their wife left them, their kid has leukemia, their dog died, their house burned down and their truck got repossessed. I'm such an asshole. We're adults, we're supposed to be responsible. Even when we don't want or feel like it, especially in regards to children.

a drunk driver that is putting their life and others on the road ways lives in danger because of being irresponsible and selfish, is in NO WAY compariable to a teacher that takes time off for any number of reasons.

You are honestly going to compare a drunk driver to a teacher that is out on jury duty?

Or a person that takes time off for cancer???

There is a difference between being a DANGEROUS selfish idiot, and taking time off that you are LEGALLY ALLOWED TO, to deal with personal matters.

FMLA has to be approved.. btw. so it's not like she can just use it because she feels like it!  

Pull your head out of your ass!

 A teacher out for ONE day is one thing, but when they spend most of the year gone to the extent that the class is getting behind, it's irresponsible. That affects children's lives. If those kids have to repeat a year, and yes, even kindergarden. Or have to be in reading recovery, not because they don't get it, but because an adult decided to short them. If you'd read what this particular post was responding to you'd see where a woman said her nephews teacher was out so much it put the entire class behind the other classes.In my kids' school the kids have to be reading at a certain level in order to move on to kindergarden and they have to do math to a certain level. It's best to exceed that level or they do Reading Recovery.  A teacher who does not make arrangements or refuses to recognize when they are no longer capable of being a good teacher has a responsibility to the students to stop. 

And as I've mentioned several times..we had a teacher out last year alot for cancer treatments. Puking from chemo and HER class didn't fall behind because she kept her things in order while she was out and worked with the sub when she was in. 

just so you know chemo and radation treatments affect everyone different. just because your child's teacher came to class and puke( where u there everyday?) doesn't mean that someone else going through treatments can stand, walk, ect.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 147 on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:11 PM
Not your business, maybe she has health problems, maybe her husband is dying, maybe she's fighting for custody of her grandkids.... you don't have a right to know and if you called her at home you where completely alone. And no she probably isn't devoted to your child individually, you know how many students she has, you need to stop trying to be nosey!!!!
jjchick75
by Gold Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:22 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

 

Quoting Jalestra:

 

Quoting jessi2girls:


Quoting Jalestra:

 

Quoting Bonita131:

 

Quoting Jalestra:

 

Quoting Bonita131:

 

Quoting Lyssa0587:

My nephews teacher was like this ( hes in kindergarten). She was an older woman and was always out because of family problems or something. Parents began to complain because the class was behind the other two classes because they always had substiutes and there wasn't any consistency. The teacher ended up just retiring from the pressure( she needed to, she was old). 


My, don't you sound like the compassionate one. Remember what you just said for the day when you're old and "need" to go.

Anytime the class is falling behind because of a teacher, she needs to go. Compassion isn't going to fix a year's worth of ruined education for those kids. I hope when I get to that point I'll be smart enough and compassionate enough not to screw others over and recognize that I am harming, not helping, the very people who depend on me.

Like I said. Aren't you the compassionate one.

Yeah, I also don't feel sorry for drunk drivers that kill people even if they are drunk because their wife left them, their kid has leukemia, their dog died, their house burned down and their truck got repossessed. I'm such an asshole. We're adults, we're supposed to be responsible. Even when we don't want or feel like it, especially in regards to children.

a drunk driver that is putting their life and others on the road ways lives in danger because of being irresponsible and selfish, is in NO WAY compariable to a teacher that takes time off for any number of reasons.

You are honestly going to compare a drunk driver to a teacher that is out on jury duty?

Or a person that takes time off for cancer???

There is a difference between being a DANGEROUS selfish idiot, and taking time off that you are LEGALLY ALLOWED TO, to deal with personal matters.

FMLA has to be approved.. btw. so it's not like she can just use it because she feels like it!  

Pull your head out of your ass!

 A teacher out for ONE day is one thing, but when they spend most of the year gone to the extent that the class is getting behind, it's irresponsible. That affects children's lives. If those kids have to repeat a year, and yes, even kindergarden. Or have to be in reading recovery, not because they don't get it, but because an adult decided to short them. If you'd read what this particular post was responding to you'd see where a woman said her nephews teacher was out so much it put the entire class behind the other classes.In my kids' school the kids have to be reading at a certain level in order to move on to kindergarden and they have to do math to a certain level. It's best to exceed that level or they do Reading Recovery.  A teacher who does not make arrangements or refuses to recognize when they are no longer capable of being a good teacher has a responsibility to the students to stop. 

And as I've mentioned several times..we had a teacher out last year alot for cancer treatments. Puking from chemo and HER class didn't fall behind because she kept her things in order while she was out and worked with the sub when she was in. 

just so you know chemo and radation treatments affect everyone different. just because your child's teacher came to class and puke( where u there everyday?) doesn't mean that someone else going through treatments can stand, walk, ect.

Couldn't agree more. Not only that but the teacher shouldn't have to come to school puking and sick from chemo! She should have the opition of taking time off and recovering like every other person in whatever career field they work in. I know I went through 2 parents going through chemo and neither would have been able to teach. Most days they couldn't eat and needed help for every day task like getting dressed and using the restroom! But I also know that those treatments are expensive and without insurance would have been impossibe for my parents to recieve. That is why places aren't allowed to up and fire people because they are sick. A teacher is not your personal slave, she is an employee of the school who has as many rights as any other employee of any other company. If the teacher for whatever reason feels she can't give 100% at this moment she has the righ to take her vacation or sick leave and let a subsitute who can take care of things do so!

t4w
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:28 PM

I understand your frustration, but would you really want your personal business broad cast to the whole city if you had to keep missing work???????? Stop being so nosey, and find some compassion! It sounds as if this teacher might be having a tough time with something!

 

k_hall1784
by Silver Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:30 PM

Seriously? NO. It isn't your business to know why she misses so many days. It's the schools business. 

booklover74
by Bronze Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:42 PM
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As difficult as it might be to have constant subs in the classroom....it's none of your buisness why she is gone. You simply have to make the best of it. If the problem is lack of consistancy because thier are to many different subs comiing and going, then ask the principle to see if they can stick to one or two subs, that might know the kids, materials and routine better. That would be reasonable. Your dillusions, however, are not reasonable. 

It is probably personal, possibly medical, possibly family medical related. It definately is her buisness though and her place to tell you or not tell you. She has chosen not to so get the fuck over it. You have no "right" to know.

You crossed a major line digging up her phone number and calling her at home. If she wanted parents having her number she would have given it to you at some point. Most teachers don't want parents having their home numbers because thier home and personal time and lives aren't any buisness of the students or parents of the students. Well thier is also the reaosn that crazy folks like you will call them at home and inist that they have a "right" to know what's going on in thier personl lives.

You keep up the harrassment and you might find yourself served with a restraining order to keep you away from the teacher, including when she is at school.

love3if3
by Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 5:31 PM
You are being a little insensitive don't u think?? What if she has something really wrong w her. :(
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 148 on Jan. 9, 2013 at 5:59 PM
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Only someone from the trailer park would even considering calling a teacher at home because they are pissed about something that is none of their business....

RhiannonMare
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 6:05 PM

You said you were a SAHM. So homeschool your kid.

Miss.MandyLynn
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 6:08 PM

I dont think its any of your business as to why she aint there.  She doesnt work for you or owe you anything, yeah your tax dollars pay her salary but your being pretty noisy

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